So, ever since Christmas, both children have been excessively bad and disrespectful. Just so happens, that is about the time BM started calling again. Of course, she only called regularly for the first week and then it was back to hit or miss but we were staying out of it because the skids (13 and 10) got phones for Christmas. We figure, let them see for themselves for once that all of her lies about DH not letting her call were exactly that, lies. Well, to sum up the last two months... SD13 has had ONE GOOD BEHAVIOR report from school since returning from Christmas break. Not one BAD, one GOOD! She has been in On Campus Suspension three different times in the last month and Thursday she managed to get herself suspended. She is in life-skills so you know it took A LOT to get suspended seeing as how they go a little easier on the disabled kids. Well, in the last two months she has bullied kids, talked back to staff, gotten on computers she is not to be on to get on websites she is not to be on, stolen her best friend's snack money three times even though she takes snack with her, and gotten violent in the classroom. Well, we got the call from the teacher Thursday and she asks "SD must be talking to her mom again, am I right?" DH, "Yes, ma'am. She has been calling every few days since Christmas." Teacher says, "I can pretty much pinpoint by her behavior when her mom is involved in her life and judging by things she says to us almost daily, I am very solidly convinced that her mother is telling her to be as bad as she can be and soon you will get tired of her and send her to live with her mother." Well, that is no surprise but now we have an official who is willing to go on record to say it. Also, when threatened with the teacher having to call home if behavior didn't stop, SD told the teacher, "I don't care if I get in trouble. My mommy got a job at a big tall building at the beach and she say she getting $10,000 and when she get her money, she coming and getting me and my brother and we going away!" Well, her job at this building can't exactly be used in court to get custody because she is staying with numerous boyfriends in this big tall building (hotel) and you can all figure out where the money is coming from. So now the teacher believes that she is telling the kids that she is going to kidnap them as well. Wednesday, I went in SS's room to make sure he has made it out on time for the school bus and his school shoes and backpack were there but no SS. His backpack was full to the brim and it looked soft like clothes so of course I pull it out to see what it is. Just a bunch of coats and sweaters? I don't know. But at the bottom of his backpack I find EVERY note sent home and homework assignment dating all the way back to, you guessed it, Christmas break. So I decide while I am gathering evidence, lets check the phone. There were two rules for the phones. They were not to go to school (he broke that rule the second day he had it and lost it for two weeks) and they were to be turned off at 7pm, at which time the children are to be getting ready for bed to be in bed by 7:30. He was texting his mom starting at 7pm every night. They had a game going where he would tell her when it was safe to text and she would and if he sent "DO NOT TEXT" she didn't until he said it was safe again. His latest text sent was at 11:23pm, the latest text that he received from her was just before midnight. Oh and that is not the worst part. I find a conversation between the two where he sent "Just got out of the shower. I'm nekkid! ;)" and she sent back "You better cover up. I see your little winkie! ;)" and he sent back "You mean HUGE!" "Bigger than dad's!!!" and she sent back "HAHAHA my little stud" Ummmmmm Oedipal syndrome much? So yeah, they lost their privilege to contact with their nasty mother. And then get this, we go to see DH's best friend, the one who just kicked her out of his house a couple weeks ago because she is "such a psycho" and he gives us the update on her. In the last two weeks, she broke up with this man the kids just had to meet, "the love of her life and a really good man" even though he has a nine mile long jail view page, has had three boyfriends since, the last of which kicked her out this weekend because his wife was coming, she got in a fight with a prostitute who works said "big tall building" because the prostitute told her "Well at least I make money for what I do. How can you be proud when you give that sh*t away." and so BM attacked her and got her ass beat and her hair ripped out. Oh and apparently she got pissed off at the friend who was trying to help her out because he went out with a girl and BM called during the date screaming and yelling what a "m f'ing, g d, a hole" best friend is because he "would f*ck that whore but he wouldn't f*ck BM?????!!!!" LOL yeah, I think removing her from their lives is a good call.