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capt_lou's picture

So worthless SS18 pulled it out of his ass and got into college and been there for about 2 weeks. But of course he didn't listen to anyone and did not get a job to save up some cash before he left. Pokemon, drinking and smoking were way too important.

So he finds out that his financial aid does not pay for books. What does he do? runs to mommy and asks for her to pay. I was like hell fing no. But it is my DW's money and told her if she wants to blow it on him go ahead. This has gone on for a couple weeks with him asking for this and that and her sending some stuff but not everything.

Well last Friday he texts her and says that he has to buy some telescope for his Astronomy class that costs 225.00. I thought this was fishy due to the professors usually tell the kids up front what they have to get and not 2+ weeks into the class. Well DW asks him for his Professors number so she can find out where to send the check. And low and behold he has been lying. He wants the money for clothes!

DW tells bio dad this and he said that it is unfortunate that SS had to lie and will send him a check so he does not have to again.

WTF!!!!!!

You just rewarded the piece of crap for lying to you!

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capt_lou's picture

Nope, she told me that this one last semester is his freebie. After that he is on his own when it comes to school supplies. This kid is gonna be 19 in December and never worked a day in his life. He has been there for over 2 weeks and still no job or hint of a job. So I am totally expecting him to be back after this semester or his dad will bail him out.

capt_lou's picture

Bio Douche works 2 jobs, cause he is all about the material things in life. He does that while he leaves SD14 alone most nights. She is growing up to be a stellar young lady Wink

Pook's picture

Wowzers... do you think DW will be able to stand her ground? It may be harder to stick to things when he comes crying again next semester.

I can't believe bio Dad caved on this one! Nice way to reward negative behaviour

capt_lou's picture

I think she will. I have no problem with little care packages, but the big stuff she needs to shut down. DW makes a lot less than me and she is tired seeing all of her extra money go out to everyone else.

She also knows the rash of shit that I will give her if I see her buying him his books again.

Bio douche pays just so he does not have to come home and live with him lol.

capt_lou's picture

I agree that if DW is left unmanaged she will enable him till he is 50 years old. That is why I am here. I level set her all the time and what responsible young adults should act like.

My BS19 has been working for 3 years, lives in his own apt, yes he is strapped for cash and he struggles. But he has never asked me for money. he wants to do it all on his own. SS18 wants everything handed to him on a silver platter and thinks it is owed to him. I tell DW that she is partly to blame for it cause she has never held him accountable.

Pook's picture

You said the golden word: Accountable.

My DH is a big advocate of everyone being accountable for their actions. It certainly didn't work for his 2 daughters, but we all live and learn. It is so important for them to know that they have to work for a living in this world... that is how it really is!

Nope, no magic unicorns that bring big bags of gold every time you want a new pair of jeans.. sorry!

capt_lou's picture

I run my house pretty strict. You f-up you are held accountable. My BS19 knows it, my BD9 knows it.

BD9 in December asked me for a IPOD touch (300.00) I told her that she needs to earn it and save up her money. It took her 6 months but by god in June she came up and said "Daddy I have 294.00, can we go to best buy and get my IPOD touch?" She had it in her hand 30 min later.

Pook's picture

**clapping loudly**

Now THAT is what I'm talking about! I am willing to bet she will be damn careful about what she does with it, and keeping track of it, etc.