I am not sure where to even begin. I will be 27 this month and have a 9 year old step daughter, 4 year old son from my previous relationship and an almost 2 year old son with my husband. My stepdaughter was 5 when my husband and I got together. We got full custody of her when she was 7 years old. Her mother is severely bi-polar and needs to be heavily medicated from having an episode. We have been to court non stop, been in yelling and screaming matches with her and everything and I mean everything has been a fight. Finally we have had some peace since my stepdaughter had started 4th grade last August. We have all been able to communicate in a civilized manner and we are able to text and communicate which is great. I feel though it has gone from one extreme to another. It use to be her biological mother wanted her daughter to want NOTHING to do with me and now I am the sole caregiver for her. My husband has an incrediably difficult and demanding job but because of his amazing job I am able to be a stay at home mother. However now I am solely responsible for getting her to and from school everyday. Making sure she is showered, clothed, fed and that all of her school work is complete. What is frustrating is that there is no schedule whatsoever for her. My stepdaughter and her mom are more like friends which is ridiculous because she has no discipline there where as my house is completely different. I know that I can't control what goes on there but when it cuts into my schedule it is unfair. I can't really talk to my husband about this which is sad. I feel so alone and feel so resentful of my stepdaughter. Tonight for example my husband is out of town for work which usually means my stepdaughter would go with her mom. Her my has an appointment and asked me to pick her up from school and keep her for a little bit. Now come to find out I have her till 7:00 meaning 8:00 because her mom is always at least an hour late. I DON'T want her here! I need a break and this happens ALL THE TIME. SHE IS NOT MY KID AND NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY. I feel so awful for saying that but it's how I feel. I have alway been the primary caregiver for her and I am sick of it. Especially since she feels as if it's owed to her. She is so ungrateful and LAZY and it drives me insane. I know it must be hard going from house to house but you know what... THAT IS LIFE! My son has to go back and forth also and I know it must not be easy but it is what it is. I just don't know how I am going to be able to deal with her and her mother for the next how ever many years. I really do hate being a stepmother at times and I just feel so alone at times.