Another reprieve...Who did I please?
Last night while I'm making dinner Harry comes in and says he just got off the phone with BM and she said that they could either stay the weekend with us (WHAT?!!!!!) or go to their Mom's. If they stay the weekend with us they would go to their mom's next weekend in a trade. If they go this weekend to their mom's they will get to go to her bout (she's a Derby Girl) and maybe out on the boat. He asked me what I think.
Well...I'm thinking WTF?!!! I have been looking forward to this weekend for 2 weeks now. This is my weekend with my husband and my daughter. What the H*@L is this S$*T about trading weekends?!
Of course, I said very calmly that I wasn't aware of any trading of weekends and I know nothing about it. Harry says that DH and BM have been talking about it for the past week. I said then he needs to discuss it with DH. (Inside) WTF, talking for a week with BM and I have been told nothing (Can you feel the anger building)?
Harry goes outside to talk to DH. DH comes running in 
DH says that he has been texting with BM for the past couple of days and forgot to tell me. That the boys have to register for school on Monday and BM suggested that we keep the boys this weekend and then drop them off Sunday evening and go back Monday evening and pick them up (does this make any sense at all?), and then they would spend next weekend with her. Or they can go up to BM's Friday evening as planned and just not come home until Monday evening. DH said that he left the decision up to the boys. Then he asked me what I thought.
I very calmly said that apparently it didn't matter what I thought or I would have been consulted prior to the night before. I said that we have plans this weekend and that I wasn't changing them no matter what the boys decided...it was just a matter of whether or not DH got to join DD2 and I.
This morning I asked Harry what he and Severus had decided and Harry said that DH said there wasn't a choice. That they had to go to their BM's tonight as planned and they would come back to us on Monday evening. 
That's an extra whole day sans skids. YAY!!!!!!!
I was really looking forward to this weekend. DH's and my schedules are opposite and we have a hard enough time getting together as it is. When the skid's are there they have to be in the same room as DH and a part of every conversation. I have absolutly no private time with my DH (while we are both still conscious) for the 6 weeks the skids are here in the summer. Except the 4 days out of the month they go to their BM. I treasure those days.
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Yeah!!!
Congradulations! You stuck to your guns
"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"
Good to hear.
Glad you stuck to your guns and that he listened as well.
I am amazed
He caught on and did the right thing! Wow, a man with a brain. You should send a pic of him in to Guiness! Seriously though, I am happy for you. I wish my Skids mother would take them four days a month, but she isn't allowed and never shows up to her supervised visits anyway. She hasn't seen or called skids since Oct. '08. I am a SAHM for my own kids, but since it's summer break I get to spend 24/7 with skids. No break. Ever.
"They say God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I just wish he didn't have so much confidence in me."
Tell me what you think about this...
Everything you said above has happened to me, but worse. I have went through this with my husband for 3 years now and when I throw a fit about it he usually does what he wants to do meaning going ahead and keeping his kids regardless of how I feel or what we had planned. All his kids have to do is call him up and say they want to come over (I know their BM puts them up to it a lot) and he goes running to get them. They are spoiled and disrespect me and he won't enforce any rules I have laid down. He defies me in front of his kids and says I'm being mean by having rules in the house. When I get on to his kids he gets mad at me. His kids push my buttons and pushes me over the edge. Whenever his kids are with us. I can't get a word with my husband. His son is the worst. He is 4 yrs. old and DH can't take a sh*t without his son following him. He has to be in every conversation wants to know everything. We try to go outside to smoke for a few minutes and his son is always right there. I never can get any alone with him until they go to sleep and by then I am exhausted.He won't even make his kids sleep in their own beds. They are 4 and 5 years old. He lets them sleep on the couch watching tv until they go to sleep. If I wanted to stay in the living room and work on the computer or wanted to stay up a little and watch tv. My DH would make me go to our room instead. That made me furious!!!! I have put up with this for almost 3 years and we are separated right now and will probably get a divorce. He will not work on changing anything.HELP. I am so hurt and sad that he done me this way. He kicked me out. He chose his kids over me.He even asked his kids if they wanted me to stay or leave. They told him they wanted me to leave so I got kicked out, then he tells me that he has never loved anyone more than me in his life and that he wants to work things out but he wont back down when it comes to his kids and ex wife. What do I do to get him to realize that she has full custody not him. He lets her get out of her responsibility of taking care of them by doing this and this is exactly what she wants. She already told him she is not going to let go of the child support, that she needs it to live on. She is lazy and will not get a full time job!!!!
Yes, stick to your guns
and schedule. I went thru that crap until I smartend up. NO CHANGING WEEKENDS UNLESS SOMEONE DIES (or gets sick). I call it----we'll skip that weekend if you want to take it for something else but I won't change weekends.
Mind you, we returned the favor. We never asked to trade weekends.
Be consistent. If you always say no, they will stop asking.