My First Sorta-Mother's Day
I have no bios, and don't really think of myself as a mother. Yes, I have stepkids, but even when I refer to myself as "stepmom" it sounds weird. Like I'm being a phony. I've been married to DH for 8 months and in the skids lives for about 4 years. I have an awesome relationship with all the skids, great relationship with BM1 and pretty good with BM2.
I view myself more as a fun aunt then a stepmom, I guess. I'm only 28 and have no bios (and no interest in having any in the immediate future) so maybe that is why I don't feel like a "mom"
This was my first mother's day as a step-mom, officially. I didn't expect anything, especially since I don't think as the kids as MY kids. DH was in Texas with SS6 and SS5 and they facetimed me. SS5 had made me a Mother's Day card at school. I was so surprised that I blurted out "but why?!" and he was like "Because're you're my stepMOM and I love you!" so cute. DH brought it back with him. It said "My Mom Is..." in a flower and you lift up the petals and it has things. I think it was supposed to be descriptors of your mom (nice, pretty etc) but SS had the teacher write fun things I did with him (play baseball, go swimming, play games on ipad lol etc). On the inside was a picture of him and he wrote "Happy Mother's Day I love you, love SS5" SS6 also said Happy Mother's Day.
The big surprise is that SD16 sent me a snapchat picture with Happy Mother's Day on it. We have a great relationship, yes, but I was not expecting that at all! SD16 has never referred to me as her stepmom (probably because I am only 13 years older) but I was really touched.
Having no expectations, it was really nice that they made some small gestures. I feel guilty feeling a little weird about it. Like I feel weird putting up the card at my desk at work because I'm not a "real" mom. Does anyone else feel that way?
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That was so sweet and
That was so sweet and thoughtful of them.
I have been in the SS's lives for almost 8 years. The first few years they made me a card. (We have had them every mothers day except for the last two years). It felt weird because I knew most of it was DH reminding them to show appreciation and kinda felt forced. Now he doesn't even ask if they did anything.
The last two years they have gotten me store bought cards and sent me text messages. The cards do not say Happy Mothers Day mom but more of Happy Mothers day to my friend. They will hide them in the house and text me when they leave on Sunday morning to spend with BM. They even have one for my mother. I have stopped feeling weird. I do alot for them and they appreciate it.
Just smile and know they love and appreciate you!