SD 14 went to live with her mom for the summer, possibly the next school year. She moved on June 28 and let me tell you I was not sad to see her go, even if it is only for 2 months. DH on the other had has mixed feeling, but the mood in the house has somehow lightened. So here is the update.
Not even a week after she is gone, DH went against a decision we both made without asking or informing me and all because his adopted daughter, (SD half sister) who has little to nothing to do with him guilted him. I found out by checking his text message. Needless to say it almost ruined our marriage, it is not something I am going to stand for. DH is now aware that if he does this again for any reason our marriage is over and he will be moving out. His excuse of course was it was for "SD14" I asked him if it was worth destroying the only real home SD14 has known for the last 6 years and will therefore have nothing to come back to if things don't work out this summer. I do believe DH pulled his head from his ass.

Since SD14 is out, I have set down some pretty strick rules in regards to if she comes back because when SD moved in 6 years ago we had 3 days notice and nothing was set out. The result was that the teenage years almost ruined our marriage. Anyways both SD and BM have been informed that they do not get to make the decision when it comes to our house. By this I mean SD14 and BM will decide that SD should visit and without asking or giving any notice they will just try and come over or change previously arranged plans. This happened this past week. DH and I were out of town and BM called and asked if we could meet half way on Sunday to pick up SD. This of course if after it was arranged that SD would be coming to our house the Friday after the Sunday. DH informed her no and that SD could not come till Friday as was decided by both parties and we are busy. Anyways BM brought SD into town and left her at her parents, I think thinking that we would have to go get her. Got to give DH credit because he told SD, when she called on Monday to ask when she was coming over, that he would be getting her on Friday.

It was also decided that SD14 would stay with BM for the entire summer, to see if they could live together, maybe coming for 1 or 2 weekend visits, but no longer than a weekend. Again last night SD calls and assumes that when she gets back from her trip to visit her sister, that she will be spending a week with us. DH again informed her that this is not the case, this moving thing was for 6 weeks to see if they could live together, because we will not be taking her back with 3 days notice again. SD14 then hangs up on DH and of course there will be no repercussion for that. All I can say is let the games begin because I am so standing my ground on this and if DH wants to have a marriage he will also.