SS9 wants to go to court so the judge will let him see his BM
When DH got custody judge said BM could not see SS until she showed she was clean. She got in trouble last year for drugs so I am pretty sure she would test positive. I was not with DH when he got custody so I really don't have rights to do anything. I am pretty sure this will not go well if his dad agrees to do this and I am afraid it is just going to make things worse. I am not sure what is worse. Him thinking it is our fault that he can't see his mom or when it comes out it is her own fault. I don't know. I really don't want him to see her. She fills his head with lies everytime. She has this big house and a game system there for him to play. All lies.
This happened the last time he saw her for a little while. Then I had to hear forever about how she has this nice big house and we don't and I didn't buy him the game system she got him. They moved into my house when we got together. They were sharing a house with family and at my house he got his own room. I thought that would be better. I guess as long as I am not his mom i will always be second class. I am sure one day it will get better and at least he is mostly a good child. This is a tough job.
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Maybe a few Sup visits? NOT
Maybe a few Sup visits? NOT with blood relatives BUT with a center.
More than likely the Judge will grant a few. If mom shows up buzzed the visit may be ditched.
Remember do not offer to supervise AND do not agree to allow her family to supervise. That combination never ends well. I have experience in this area.
Is bm trying to get
Is bm trying to get custody----back?
It never ends with these BMs.
It never ends with these BMs. Our BM lost custody of SD10 after she took her twice without permission. She is in a whole mess of trouble with CPS in her state. We were just notified by DH's attorney that she filed a motion to have visitation granted again. Apparently, she has been working with CPS and is being supervised. She is asking to have summers and holidays again. DH's attorney said that if she can prove she has a safe living environment and is being supervised by CPS, that she will probably be granted some visitation.
I can understand how you feel. This dredges up a bunch of emotions for me. If she does get visitation back and then flakes again, it will completely destroy SD10. I spent so many nights comforting that child because of the sh** BM has pulled. She is just now starting to get back to normal and this is going to throw her back into it.
But, the courts always try to preserve the relationship between parent and child, so there is nothing to be done. As others have said, don't take it personally. That is his mom. It is natural that he misses her.
BM does not ever call to
BM does not ever call to check on him. She called on his birthday in 2015. Her mom came to one of his basketball games a year ago and posted pix on Facebook, which BM copied and posted on her page of her son. Only time she has laid eyes on him or an image of him in a couple of years. We got married last year and I know she knew and figured he had a mom now so she was off the hook. Plus she had another baby in 2014 and one on 2016. Now she has 3 kids, ages 9, 3 and 1 and she has none of them. At times his dad let's him get away with things he shouldn't. He feels guilty like her behaviour is his fault and he purposely picked a dead beat. SS is in 3rd grade and BM has never even been to his school. His dad has had him since before kindergarten. We start counseling next week so hoping he will be able to help SS and us as parents.