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SS9 wants to go to court so the judge will let him see his BM

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Submitted by Christine1466 on Thu, 05/11/2017 - 6:56am

When DH got custody judge said BM could not see SS until she showed she was clean. She got in trouble last year for drugs so I am pretty sure she would test positive. I was not with DH when he got custody so I really don't have rights to do anything. I am pretty sure this will not go well if his dad agrees to do this and I am afraid it is just going to make things worse. I am not sure what is worse. Him thinking it is our fault that he can't see his mom or when it comes out it is her own fault. I don't know. I really don't want him to see her.

Does anyone have experience with a child psychologist

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Submitted by Christine1466 on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 4:43pm

Going to our first full appointment with the child psychologist next week. DH was not totally for it until SS9 was getting into trouble at school. Just the same stuff he does to me at times, disrespecting the teacher, eye rolling and talking back mostly. Thanks to his useless BM he hasn't seen since Dec 2014 he has little respect for women. Of course I might feel that way if my mom chose the drugs over me when I was young. I have heard that it gets worse when they start therapy until they get used to it. He has already said that he will not talk about his BM.

Tired of feeling like I will never measure up to bm

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Submitted by Christine1466 on Tue, 05/09/2017 - 8:33am

BM has not seen my ss in 2 1/2 years. My dh has full custody but ss is angry quite often because he can't see his BM. I can't help that and am doing my best to be the best SM I can but sometimes this job sucks. She will always be better and he idolizes her even after all that she has done. I keep my mouth shut and just tell him one day when she is not "sick" anymore she might come around but for now we just have to wait until she is better/off drugs.