I have put my foot down tonight and damn, it feels good!! Let me take you back to a couple months ago..

My daughter who is 7 was riding around learning how to skate on heelys just having a good ol time when SD9 walks in from being with BM and has an absolute, freak-out tantrum over my daughter wearing her heelys. She called her mom screaming about it, screaming at her dad that she wants her to take them off RIGHT NOW!! (Also, just for the record, these heelys were tucked away in a closet and had not seen the light of day for at least 6 months, my daughter happened to find the wheels and went for a spin) DHs way of handling this was saying to my SD9 that "if she breaks them he will buy her new ones". Instead of trying to tell her its okay to share things he tries buying her, once more, to stop crying. He also told me that "kids like to have things of their own that nobody should touch and so it made it okay for her to not want anyone wearing heelys that were hers". Ok fine big guy, and I vowed to myself to never forget this. (And, the heelys didnt even fit SD9, thats how long it had been since she cared about them).

In all fairness, okay, they are hers, thats fine.. she didnt want anyone wearing them, thats okay too, but remember..what goes around comes around.. and that came around tonight!!

My sons got Ripsticks for Christmas. If you dont know what those are, they are some type of scary looking skateboard things. 2 wheels.. wobbly wheels like on a grocery cart. Well my boys are at their dads tonight and the precious SDs decided they wanted to ride them. Here it was, my opportunity to make a point. And I bit it!!!!

I said to DH, I want to say this without bringing down the house and starting a war but im not going to hold back this time. I reminded him of SD9s total break down about the heelys awhile back and said "how is this right, she doesnt have to share but mine do"? And for once in my life this man agreed. He went down and also reminded them of that whole thing and took the ripsticks from them and said "next time, ask" Both of the girls started crying and I have no idea why. He asked me to talk to them and I said no way, they cant handle being told no at all, not one little bit and that is your fault, not mine. He then asked them to pick up the basement a little bit and they lost it even more. SD9 yells out that "they dont clean her room when they mess it up" and DH didnt say a word.. and I couldnt help myself.. I marched out to her while she sat there on the couch and told her like it was.

"EXCUSE ME MISS, I HEARD WHAT YOU JUST SAID ABOUT MY KIDS NOT CLEANING YOUR ROOM WHEN THEY MESS IT UP AND IM SORRY, THAT EXCUSE WILL NOT WORK. YOU DIDNT CLEAN YOUR ROOM EITHER LITTLE GIRL, YOUR DAD DID!!! YOUR DAD ALSO ASKED YOU TO GO PICK UP THE BASEMENT, NOW GET UP AND DO WHAT HE SAID"!!!

And off she went, I could hear her bawling from upstairs, while my intention wasnt to make her bawl her eyes out, it was simply to make her understand that she doesnt rule the roost and she is done outright ignoring what she is told to do and its high time she finds a different excuse other than it being my kids. She has been in her room since she got done "helping". And that is fine by me!!! I know it wont last, daddy will most likely baby her by the morning, but it was nice to speak my mind. And not one person knew what to say to me.... YOUR TURN, SUCKERS!!!!