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SM is HARD during Holidays

Cover1W's picture

So we all have different levels of difficulty but there's always something going on.

YSDalmost18 is with us for a week. A long week. Fine. 

But DH cancelled a holiday afternoon for the two of us I had planned the other weekend (when she was also here) and now looks like he's going to cancel something this evening, another fun holiday adult thing. FFS. He's the one complaining that "he's done with Christmas" but he's done nothing. AS I EXPECTED. I've done fun stuff myself, baking, giving away baking, doing things with friends and co-workers, but nothing with DH. He also wants to do Christmas dinner on another night, which we don't normally do. Fine, but I do NOTHING the other night because it's my vacation time too. Yes, he will help me with the dinner activities at least.

Of course every evening is now focused on YSD. Fine. I'll go read my book or watch something in the other room. I really don't want to play a board game after working all day (oh, yeah, he's not working while she's here either). Or he'll get irritated with something I'm doing because it's distracting him while he's trying to do something with YSD, oh, sorry, just cleaning up my stuff here and getting ready for work tomorrow morning.

You go have fun, I'll just be here doing my things alone. Then he'll wonder why I just don't want to be involved. Because I'm not actively included and AGAIN my suggestions/planning is all for sh*t. 

Yeah, great, lots of fun. 

My neighbors, who I used to go to for a break spontaneously, adopted a large, aggressive dog and so I cannot go over there right now. 

 

Comments

la_dulce_vida's picture

These men. Not stellar parents on the regular, but they become twitterpated with their offspring (look what my sperm created!! I'm a genius!!) to the point where they cannot even function in their marriage. It's disgusting.

I'd walk up to him and sniff - "What's that smell. Oh, that's right, scent of SD's butthole. Let me know when you extract yourself from her butt and shower off."

Rags's picture

Why does anyone expect a failed/non-stellar parent to be a stellar partner?

Hmmmmmm

Cover1W's picture

Yeah it's pretty much only when YSD is with us that he loses it.

He lost OSD to PAS so he's super sensitive to YSD now.

I get it. But ya know I'm still taking care of me. And I have good Champs for the holidays.

Catmom024's picture

Lol...I love this response. 

JustanotherSM17's picture

Wow that sounds horrible ! Sorry you have to deal with this over the holidays, how old is SD? Have you mentioned that you may not want to cancel these plans ?

CajunMom's picture

If he cancels the next event, is it something you can attend alone  or bring a friend? I wouldn't let him stop me from enjoying holiday gatherings. As for him and the SD, how about STRONGLY suggesting he take his queen out every night and let you enjoy your home in peace. SMH 

Cover1W's picture

Well it's not something I really want to go to alone. So I'm at the gym! Whoot! Eff off to dinner with those two as well. I'm working out.

Harry's picture

It's the least DH can do is do fun thing with you over CHRISTMAS.  If this nonsense doesn't stop right this second you disengage from his family.  He can't want to play happppy fammmily all year then decide at Christmas not to. This is disrespectful to you