I'm at a local park enjoying a cigarrette instead of being around whenever SS18 wakes up/gets up. I waited around long enough to confirm SS had no Mothers Day words or thoughts, then bailed before I had to hear his b.s. small talk while bailing to go attend his stoney social life. 

Clover Hallmark Holidays cause a lot of hurt feelings for so many people I totally have learned to ignore them. 

Many of us have lost our parents due to age or illness and we are expected to suck it up with a smile. Our kids are expected to stick mom and dad in a golden bubble of praise all day long. 

Kids of divorce are sometimes kept from the Hallmark Parent Day as a means to get back and seek revenge.  Some Grandparents felt left out so now there is Grandparents DAY>>>>TEACHERS DAY< Next Aunt and Uncle Day---Cousins Day.

Step parents also have feelings of sadness that many don't want to talk about. Most Step parents are good and we have raised our step kids. Especially if one parent was strung out on their drug of choice.

This man who sang praises to his wife is not saying anything wrong. But you can see how because of  good ole' Mothers Days his adoration for his wife, the step mom may cause people to be upset.

I don't know about you but I do not need a special day for anything. 

Did you know Mothers Days was started by a Feminist in the early 1900's.....it is unfortunate the spirit of it's intent has grossly taken a mind of it's own. 

My Darling Husband took us out to eat "just because" last evening at one of our favorite spots. It was wonderful...no stress, no anticipation, no expected gifts, cards....just us having a great evening. 

EVERYDAY is Mothers and Fathers Day as far as I am concerned. 

I am so sorry if anyone is feeling sad, cheated, no remembered today. 

I dont expect my skids to call me...I dont expect anything from them therefore I am not disappointed in the least.

I want to say Happy Mother's  Day to all the wonderful Stepmothers and Stepfathers. The ones who love with their hearts. The ones that have NEVER emotionally, financially. physically, sexually or verbally abuse their SC whether they're a child or an adult step. To us who give 150% To us who have been severely criticized, cursed, lied to and lied on. To us who have been told to be the better person after we know we didn't do anything wrong. That we should apologize and a sincere apology at that. To us who have spouses that will not speak up for us.  Who are more afraid to speak to their child(child or adult) who is more coward than the lion from the Wizard of Oz. I applaud you for not losing it even when you're pushed to the breaking point. For us who have to go on like you're not hurting inside where it's okay for SC to say what they want about you but your spouse want you to hold your tongue. Let's not go there for us who parent our Steps way better than the biological so much so that if there was an Academy Award for Step Parents they better say your name before the biological mother. I would have Kanye West come on stage and snatch it away from BioMom and give it you. I hear your worries and quiet cries. Some of us are afraid that our spouse may separate or divorce if we don't fall in line and stop making issues with their child. I know that pain in your heart and stomach you wish you could blame it on the Mexican food you ate. The need to defend after you been offended. Lets not go there when outsiders(family, friends, etc) get involved and make matters worse. Then you look like wicked witch from Cinderella. The pain of being ignored as if your Casper the not so friendly ghost. No calls, text, cards, money or any gift may not ever make them like you. No matter how sincere, it ends up with tears all you want is a thank you nothing more. Some steps look for any flaws even make some up if they have to make us look bad. Damn if you do and damn if you don't. Your not perfect none of us are by far. You say to yourself how long will this keep on? Should I stay or go? I can't keep hurting like this. I can't tell you how to fix your story. Wonderful forums such as this one and therphy for myself helped. You can't change people only yourself. Remember no one should live with abuse and it doesn't mean only physical. Emotional and verbal are scars that on the inside that can't be visible seen. No spouse or step child is worth abuse. That's never okay! I hear your cries becauseI been there. So today give yourself a hug. Treat yourself to all the hard work you do.