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Submitted by craziness on Wed, 01/01/2014 - 9:29pm

My ss11 and ss7 are significantly overweight. Basically they are larger than 99% of children their own age... per MD. The MD asked that they watch what they eat, avoid sugar and only drink skim milk water or diet green tea because they have high lipids. My bio kids are tall and slender and really NEED to eat!! Lol. So here is my problem...for an she I changed the way our entire house ate...even at the complaints of my bios because they have been told by their pediatrician to let them each whatever they want....I did salads, low calorie selections etc. However my dh and inlaws continued to give in to the skids letting them have "just a little" or mayo and cheese make it taste better etc. I basically because frustrated and went back to my old ways of cooking. The problem is the kids are still getting larger because noone including bm thinks that their weight is a problem....even though the lipids clearly don't lie! The other day ss11 ss and bio13 stayed at inlawz. During dinner ss11 says in a shitty tone (per bio son 13 who is appauled at skids weight) that " dad thinks we r fat ss, but w are NOT"....in laws of course had no response. I told my husband about he conversation and he just acts like it wasn't a problem....there are 2 issues here for me 1. That ss11 was trying to influence ss and go completely against what dh has inconsistently been trying to teach them and 2. That ss 11 was being an ass. Any thoughts? I am so frustrated with ss11 I don't even want to be around him (nervous other reasons too).

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Submitted by HadEnoughx5 on Wed, 01/01/2014 - 10:11pm

I've have a similar situation. The skids all have extremely poor eating habits.Swamp Hole thinks there's nothing wrong and DH blames the world on Swamp Hole. The middle skid is over weight and has high cholesterol since the of age 11.

If I hadn't pushed as much as I had… no one would have known but Swamp denies anything is wrong and DH tried to make changes but caved because of all the resistance from skid and Swamp.

This may sound bad, but I got tired of fighting skids parents. I finally had to decide that even though I want what's best for skid, he already has 2 parents. And if those 2 adults want to fuck up their children, then so be it.

I no longer cook for the skids but I also don't buy unhealthy food either. If the bad stuff comes into the house, its because DH bought it

Ive completely dropped the subject in my home and I'm happier being stress free from it Smile

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Submitted by craziness on Wed, 01/01/2014 - 10:23pm

I think that's what I may need to do too....I mean they're not my children so of noone else is concerned then I shouldn't be either I suppose!

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Submitted by Confused.com on Thu, 01/02/2014 - 7:39am

We have the same issue SD10 has a BMI of 32. She's just under 4 foot and she weighs 160lb. I keep their diets healthy but that's all I managed to do. I used to worry about it, but if BM wants her children to look like that with all the health risks associated, that's her problem. I just feed them healthy diets every other weekend there's is nothing more I can do, so I stopped worrying about it.

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Submitted by ctnmom on Thu, 01/02/2014 - 9:33am

CTBB was obese, to the point of getting dirt/sweat stuck in his fat folds. I was horrified, but no one else seemed to care, so what could I do? He's a fitness/nutrition nut now at the age of 36, and has some weird eating disorder behaviors. He once asked me how the adults in his life let him get so obese when he was little. It took all I had not to say I tried, but couldn't fight the tide. Disgusting.