Same guy with the birthday dinner?
Holy hell, he's slow...

Did he have a stroke or something....how is he still not getting this?

I thought for awhile he was seeing her for her crazy ways and getting better. Did this all start up again when you got back from vacation? Maybe leaving those two home alone was not a great idea. She is his little wife. Its terrible that he keeps putting her first before you. He needs to decide which one of you is going to be his wife. He needs to love you enough to put the little manipulator in her place. She must be getting a kick out of all of this knowing she is the cause!!

I am never a fan of ultimatums but at some point he really needs to choose.

What he can do is arrange another time to take SD driving. But he isn't. Actions speak louder than words. His actions are screaming that you come second, always. Teaching SD to drive right this moment is more important.

Now, you have to admit that you have allowed this behavior for a long time. Therefore he has not taken how serious you are about this. He is still in the brush it under the carpet, ol'daisy is just overreacting and will be over it soon. She is just going through something...

sigh, my XH - I told him, XH, we have a problem. I am not happy and its not getting better and we need some serious help.
XH: Yeah, you seem down, why don't you buy yourself a new car. Nissan has this new car blah blah blah blah blah, ...... so what do you want for dinner tonight?

This is when I decided I was done and moved on with my life.

And let me guess, her migraines have disappeared. What a coincidence.

Would it not be to much to ask to get one night of us....urgggggg

No! he is choosing very unwisely right now. His life is unraveling, SD's license test can be put on hold. Even next week won't kill her and if she really needs to go on another test drive to be ready for it, she could use a few more frankly!

I'm at a complete loss. I'm glad you told him to forget it!

Seriously you need to give him a set of questions before he makes decisions.

1. Have I spoken to Daisy about this before I make plans that don't include her so she won't feel left out?
2. Have I made a commitment to Daisy before I say yes to what SD wants?
3....

you get the point. he is a relational moron!

would you ever consider counseling? you have never said this is a route you would go so i'm just curious is this an option for you. i really think your dh needs a lot of HELP...it's not you daisy...it's not. he's particularly stupid

My response is always Do what you need to do. Then I keep my own schedule. I wouldn't bother with him any more. He isn't getting it and nothing you say will do anything. I don't think the talk would have changed anything anyway. His goal is to make you see things his and SD's way and change you. This is always what happens when we finally hit our limit. We put up with it, then when we dn't want to anymore, they don't know what is going on.

You are right to just ignore. He needs some time away from you to figure out where his priorities are. If I were you, I'd take advantage of him being away for a bit.

Holy fuck. I want to club him in the face with a two by four.

"what do you want me to do"

Grow the fuck up and have an adult relationship with ME, maybe. Or how about quit letting your daughter determine your life's schedule. Or maybe notice that if I threw you out of my house, I obvioulsy disagree that this is "small" stuff. Get a fucking clue!

As a PS, since MIL is there, and presumably licensed -mini wife and mommmmiiieeee can go driving together while DH man's up, staples his testicles back in place (after rooting them out of sd's purse) then put on his knee pads and come crawling back to his REAL wife begging forgiveness for being a ball-less, spineless, brainless, d*ckless nincompoop!

Dear Daisy's Husband:
Bud you REALLY need to let Daisy go so you can continue to live for your daughter. Seriously dude, she does not like being 2nd to a teen. So man up, call it quits and stay at your daughter's beck and call.

But one day your daughter is likely to find a replacement for you... a husband. And while you sit by the phone waiting for your daddy/daughter dates while her husband nails her over and over (husbands do that you know) you may remember the fantastic woman who you allowed to walk out of your life. And you will NEVER have it so good again for the rest of your life.

By The Way, what is your neurotic, special, highly strung daughter doing behind the wheel of a car?

Cheers!
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Wow, he really isn't taking this very seriously, is he? If I thought my relationship was in jeopardy, it would be my FIRST priority, above everything else. He really is a DUMBASS. You have told him this is about putting your needs/wants aside for being at SD's beck and call, and you've kicked him out and when he has the chance to try and work things out, HE PUTS YOUR NEEDS ASIDE TO BE AT SD'S BECK AND CALL. He is the dumbest man alive right now.

Make plans to meet him or talk. Then break them to do something with your BS. Then do it again. Repeat until he gets the point.

He can't really be this dense??? Obviously SD knows what's going on and that the two of them are not coming home tonight. He should have no problem with telling the mini-wife that his talk with you is more important than her driving lesson.