Am I a Bad guy!!
Ive been in a realtionship for 3 years now and have 2 SD's 9-10 years old. My girlfriend and the girls father have to close of a friendship for me. I knew it going in they were civil but now 3 years later it is to much. They text all the time call whenever and talk about more then the girls. I had my home paid off and took out a loan to add 2 rooms on for them and get attitude and they act like they dont appreciate it. Their father is not asked to pay child support and she works part time so i pick up everything. I dip into my savings every month just to pay for things we need. When i try to correct them I get attitude from their mother like i am a bad guy. She says no man will get between her and her ex's friends ship. We have a 5 month old son of our own. I am ready to call it quits and see my son on weekends and holidays. It sounds good to me not to have to put up with their attitudes and the ex. Am I wrong for feeling like this?
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Why would you have to see
Why would you have to see your son on holidays on weekends? You are just as entitled to 50/50 custody as she is.
Honestly, why are you paying for anything to support those kids? They are not yours and it sounds like you are being used. Your wife and her ex need to support them. They are nothing to you that requires sacrifice.
So if you broke up, who would
So if you broke up, who would be paying for her older 2 kids?
Sorry, just sounds like you are being held as the "sugar daddy". She still maintains a "close" relationship with the girls' father, but he has no responsibility for them and your only responsibility regarding them is monetarily? That is rather an unfair situation.
Sucka!!! Man, it amazes me
Sucka!!!
Man, it amazes me that women find men who will be their patsy. You took out a loan to add rooms to your house for her daughters, you AREN'T married (!!!) and the dad doesn't pay CS. What about that is ok with you for three years?!?
Sir, time to man up. Daddy needs to pay CS, and Mommy needs to stop being his bestie. If she doesn't like those two conditions, there's the door. You need to start respecting yourself. Period.
What she said. There are many
What she said.
There are many adult women out there who are just as bad as the SKs many here vent about. How can a mother think it's ok to have another man support her kids while she lets the dad (and herself)off the hook.
OP, your GF and the girl's dad are both using you.
To me, I agree with the above
To me, I agree with the above posters and will concur that it sounds as though you're being used for your wallet...I'd be out of there if I were you. No one should have to live like that, in my opinion.
Have you talked with her about your feelings?
Thank you for all the
Thank you for all the comments. I was ready 5 months ago before my son was born. She had a IUD and he was not planned and came as a suprise! I have talked to her many times and she gets pissed. Says its none of my business about child support between her and her ex.He works outta town but has a house here. She says him seening them on the weekends and coming into town is enough child support as he spends 150 a weekend on the drive. But, i dont see anything coming in to help out our household. I know i am stupid for sticking around but its time to go as my son will be 6 months soon.
Holy shit. That chick has
Holy shit. That chick has balls the size of Texas.
>>She says him seening them
>>She says him seening them on the weekends and coming into town is enough child support as he spends 150 a weekend on the drive.<<
Then I guess when he "supports" his children with his visits, he better be bringing groceries, clothes, toiletries, school supplies.... and maybe a little something on the side for those pesky bills like electric, gas, etc.
Seriously.
I guess if he was a nice
I guess if he was a nice guy(her ex) then i would feel alittle better about things. When we meet at the kids sports he never says anything and mad dogs. I went up to him first cause he said if he sees me he would drop me where i stood. Nothing happened he was as nice as pie. Seems like she always protects him. I just found out today that he payed the tags on her car. its funny he has money when it comes to her. Yeah i pay every bill that comes in the mail. I will text on the weekends when they are with their dad to their phone things like have a great weekend I miss you guys and nothing. Their mom texts 5 mins after and she gets swamped with replys. I believe their dad doesnt want them building anything with me. Thanks again for your comments its helpful!
How much do you want to bet
How much do you want to bet that this gold digger will go after him for CS if he leaves her???!!!
Seriously...my BF got with a woman that had 3 kids. He knocked her up and they got married. In her first divorce that man and my BF's XW went to court and made an arrangement where her XH only pays 300 a week for 3 KIDS!!! It can never go up or down. They agreed upon that in court and to this day it is still that way. Now my BF's XW was found out to be cheating on my BF while they were married and when they divorced she racked him over the coals!!! He pays 230.00 a week for ONE KID!!! She went after him because she KNOWS that he makes good money and has the potential to make so much more because of his line of work. When it got reduced from 270.00 to 230.00 she pitched a fit in the courtroom and made a scene about my BF taking food out of their kids mouth!!! Unfucking believable right!!!???
My point is she lets this guy skirt his responsibilites for his 2 kids that he made with her and you foot the bill all the time and she knows it and she also knows that obviously you make a decent living so guess who she is most likely going to go after once you leave? Just food for thought....stand your ground and DON'T let her, her kids or their loser father take advantage of you anymore!!!
Next time HER bios want/need
Next time HER bios want/need something say NO! Big fat no cut off not your kids not your responsibility she or their dad can do it make her pay part of the bills or gtfo seriously. I have a mortgage needs paid ny exh is behind on cs I'm a sweet hard working girl raising kids working and finishing college want to toss ur money away I'll take it with a lot less headache, cut me a check and you don't even have to ever deal with my kids me or my ex (jk but hope you get the point)