BM undermining
So the BM is on the phone with the kids. They were with dad speaking then brought the phone put to the living room where I am.
First BM is saying that there's no reason the injury to the boys privet parts would keep them from swimming. She saying it's like just like a rash. I left it up to their dad. He's the one caring for it. It's a tear that got infected and is still red so he said no to going to the pool till it's more healed.
Ontop of that BM won't drop the cell phone issue. She sent the 7 year old with a phone and was clearly told that she would not be allowed to have it. The phone has been turned off and put up. Dad talked with daughter but mom's not dropping it. She just asked daughter why she's not answering it.
Because she doesn't have it and won't have it so stop asking daughter. It's not her fault or her choice. Dad said no. Leave it be.
Just pissed me off because daughter is so sensitive and was already upset about it but had gotten over it. There's no reason to keep bringing it up and the way she did it was like she was blaming the kid.
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Ignore ignore ignore. Kids
Ignore ignore ignore.
Kids are at Dad's house following Dad's rules and guidance. If the kids drag phone to you or Dad, politely end the call. Click. BM doesn't have a CO that says she can call and play Mommy in the middle.
Time to get off phone, kiddies, tell Mom bye.
They didn't really bring it
They didn't really bring it to me just brought it out to talk to her and let dad sleep. I tried to ignore because I know me taking it and telling her off wouldn't be a good thing but I wanted to.
I only really said two things. One was to correct the daughter when she started to say I said no to swimming because that was their father. I didn't want BM having any fuel to try and start crap.
Then I could hear the boy talking about touching the water snails when they took the phone to their room so I yelled for him not too.
Otherwise I tried to ignore. I did tell their dad what had happened so he was aware because he needs to call the doctor tomorrow and check for himself if swimming is no or go.
There is no need to tell her
There is no need to tell her off. Just get the kids off. Once a call to Mommy starts being more than "Hi, Mommy, we miss you, yes, we love you to", it's time to end the call.
No need to tell her off. No need to say anything other than 'time to get off now, kids'.
Dad seriously want phone calls put in the CO. None of Mom's business if Dad said no to swimming or anything else. When at Dad's , Dad is boss. When at Mom's, Mom is boss. children should not be allowed to be PAS'd via phone calls, whine over Dad's rules, nor pit Mom or Dad.
When phone calls become intrusive and trouble making, they cease. Period. Phone calls are not meant to be a report to Mom.
I understand her asking how
I understand her asking how they are and they want to tell about their day which is fine but I don't like how she's talking to the 7 year old like an adult.
I'm gonna have to talk to their dad. If she can't talk to them as children and leave the parenting between them then he needs to monitor phone calls. I understand he doesn't really want to hear her voice and it feels like spying but her doing this crap isn't gonna help them.
Agreed. A is the type to
Agreed. A is the type to bottle stuff up. She was visibly upset when mom was talking about it then sort of withdrawn after. Then about an hour later I'm getting them for dinner and find A just in tears over little brother changing movies out while her back was turned.
She's not the type to just let something like that upset her. She is fully capable of switching it back and we've done our best to let her know she doesn't have to just put up with little brothers crap.
I think at mom's M gets away with it though and she's expected to be this little adult. We do our best to let her be a kid.