It has been close to 2 years since I left this site, and now it is coming back to haunt me, albeit indirectly. Most of you certainly have no idea who I am, and the broader details are mostly irrelevant, however, I am a former "step" who turned to this site in search of advice, support and a place to vent her frustrations. Despite my best efforts and due to the advice I found on here, that relationship ended; for the most part not well, but time passes, wounds heal and if we're lucky we are able to let go of the negativity.
Recently my ex re-entered my life, not with the intention of rekindling our relationship, but out of pure need; he finally hit his rock bottom. This is something that has been a long-time coming and quite frankly, well deserved. Honestly, I have the deepest sympathy for the man; what he is going through is equivalent to a death and he wants more than anything to change his life and finally be the person and parent that he should be, so I agreed to help.
My help included providing a supervised (which I agree is needed) location for him to have visitation with his son and herein lies the problem. His ex-wife, who I always did my best to maintain a good relationship with and considered a friend despite not always agreeing with her, decided to google my screen-name and came across my blog posts on here; posts which she is now using as leverage in her efforts to 'interfere' with court-ordered visitation (CO modifications are pending). My warning to all of you, use a screen-name that wouldn't easily be traced to you. Things that you say in frustration, taken out of context could end up biting you or your SO in the ass.
At a time when I needed understanding the most, this site was a god-send; no one can understand the frustrations of trying to make a blended family work more than other people who are going through it and I will always be thankful for finding this site, I hate that things I said out of hurt and anger are being used against another person, regardless of what he has done to get himself into this situation.
For those of you who do remember me, I am doing well (in spite of this new drama). School is fantastic and I am in a very slow moving, healthy relationship.