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BM Abusing SS9's Cell Phone Now.

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Submitted by DTK on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 3:46pm

So the last two nights SS9 actually made it through the night only waking us up once (last night), and DH walked him back to his room (without giving in to his pleas for him to tuck him back in). Hooray!!

But a new source of aggravation has popped up over the weekend, this time it's the BM. So we got SS9 a cell phone last fall when things were getting sketchy @ his BM's house (i.e., her BF at the time was kicking her out and her cell phone turned off). It was to be used for getting a hold of us only. Well, come this spring and BM racked up over $40 worth of data charges using it for Facebook... and then had the NERVE to try and turn it all around on ME (the phone is under my name - DH and I are on a family plan together, but I am main account holder). She and I had a huge fight when I confronted her... I would expect nothing less from a leech like her.

Now she's living with some new guy, and since her old BF had been paying for her phone... surprise! She has no phone now. I log in this morning to see that she's been using SS9's phone to send/receive over 25 text messages yesterday alone, all to/from this number I don't know. Looking back on the records, she's obviously been abusing the phone for some time.

So today, I discovered the lovely Family Allowances controls, and totally shut the phone down with the exception of being able to dial 911, customer service, my DH and I. Muahahahah!! }:) Wish I could see the reaction when she realizes she can't abuse her son's phone anymore.

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Submitted by AndSoItIs on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 3:51pm

Hooray for you!! There are often times when I too wish I could be a fly (going unnoticed of course among the other flies and filth) on the wall in BMs house! It's the little things, really. Smile

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Submitted by DTK on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 4:02pm

Yeah, I'm wondering if she's going to say anything about it. If nothing else she might do something like leave a sobby VM on my DH's phone about how could he do this to her and why is he being so cruel, just like she did last year when he claimed his son for taxes as it was HIS year, per their divorce decree they are to alternate years. She hardly worked at all this year anyway!

And to top it all off, DH was nice enough to give her $400 of his tax return (something she would NEVER do), but when we went to pick out engagement rings a week later she had the nerve to text him, and I quote: "U better not spend more then $400, that is money u should be spending on your son n eways!!" Ughghhhh!!!! He bought be a huge rock regardless, ha.

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Submitted by DTK on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 4:19pm

Omg, I hope she doesn't break it, we're not done paying for it!! I wouldn't put it past her to try and pretend to be me, but I believe they will need the last 4 of my SSN to ID me (they ask for it every time I call customer support). Thank god.

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 4:14pm

Good for you for limiting the phone plan! I also see nothing wrong with telling the child that the phone was purchased for HIM, not for his Mother's use.

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Submitted by DTK on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 4:16pm

Oh yeah, we've totally made that clear to him, on several occasions. But she uses it anyway, and he would never stand up to his mom like that. He doesn't see her wrongs for what they are, yet.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 4:26pm

I wouldn't have bought a 9 year old a phone in the first place but that is just me.

We did once however had a prepaid phone and it still had about 2 weeks or so left o0n it when I went to our current provider. So I gave it to the boys to use til the time was up. Yep bubble butt used it and the boys didn't get to use it once! No prob. what ever. When the time was up she had the NERVE to call and say she paid OUR bill and expected us to pay it. Dh told her that it was our intent to let it go and she could have it or not her choice. She CHOSE to keep it but then when my dr called b/c I forgot to tell him the new # she threw a fit and said to tell purple that she better make sure I not let ANYONE ever call HER phone again! She was very pissed it was so funny b/c dh just told her that it WAS purple's phone! She hung up. lol

But IF he has to have the phone it's very good you set those limits and I hope she doesn't try to cal and pretend she is you. I would call the company and make it very clear to them that NO ONE else but you should be changing anything.

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Submitted by DTK on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 4:34pm

Yeah, we got it because his line is free with our family plan and we happened to be combining our plan the weekend when BM was completely out of contact (which stretched into 5 days, we nearly filed for emergency temp. full custody) since her BF had kicked her out and shut off her phone. We were really concerned about what he would be going back to - i.e., we didn't want him sleeping on strangers' couches, etc..

BM insists on living waaay out in the middle of the sticks, about 35 miles away from our town. And in Oregon, that means literally, the woods. She absolutely refuses to move back to our town, and yet does not have a car OR a phone now!

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Submitted by DTK on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 5:00pm

Yeah, I was talking to them as I was setting up the restrictions. (Which was less than 2 hrs ago). She can only text/call my DH and I's number now. I'm sure she was sending that text to DH to test and see if that's what's going on. We have unlimited minutes/texts between the three of us, so it's no biggie. I just thought it was interesting that it only took her about an hour to find out it's now restricted, that means she was using it, and probably a lot, today. Well, TS for her! If she wants to use it to talk to DH or I or 911, she's welcome to. LOL. She's likely peeved that she can't continue texting whoever it was she was sending 25+ texts to yesterday. Probably some other guy she's screwing and trying to establish so she can sponge off him and get a new phone.

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Submitted by DTK on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 5:43pm

I have T-Mobile, just been with them the longest so I get the best deals.

Updated the account so it's also password protected now. I doubt she has the means to try and look up my SSN, but better to be safe than sorry.

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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Mon, 09/19/2011 - 6:31pm

We had to block SD's phone too at one time because BM was constantly losing her own cell phone and would use SD's. It drove me crazy because she doesn't work and my DH was laid off at the time so I was the only one paying for the phones! BM was using it to text her votes for a reality show and I called her out on it and she got all embarrassed. She quit texting then but still made long distance calls on the phone so she wouldn't have to use her minutes or be charged long distance on her home phone. I too blocked it and BM found out when she took it one day while SD was in school. She tried to call a couple of people and got a recording stating that the call wouldn't go through. So she called DH and realized she could get him. I had already alerted him that the phone was being used when it wasn't supposed to be so the 2nd time she called him he answered. He laid into her about How the phone wasn't for her and was supposed to remain with SD in case of emergency. She tried to give him some sob story about having to drive downtown and she might need it if she had an emergency and that's when he told her that she could call 911, me or him and that was how we set it up since ahe was always using it. She got all pissy and told him that she wouldn't have even borrowed it from SD she had known that. Stupid witch! We haven't had that problem since and she has never used SS's phone that we got for him after this all took place. Lesson learned! Smile

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Submitted by DTK on Tue, 09/20/2011 - 11:59am

So a little update on how this all resolved last night (I was @ work teaching my ballet classes)...

DH never responded to that text BM sent in the middle of the day, but he got a call later that evening from SS9 who was frantic and in tears asking "Why did you block all the numbers on my phone?!" Both of us knew exactly how it all went down without even being there... the phone had been lost for a week (until BM found it on Saturday, according to the text log), so she probably handed it to him when he came home from school and said "Oh, here, I found your phone, but your dad blocked all the numbers on it!" She has done this several times where she will do anything, including upset her son, just to make Dad look bad.

DH's response? "Don't worry about it bud, we'll put any numbers you want back on it." And he went on to discuss the Scouts meeting on Wed. they'd be going to.

I don't mind his response, because as far as I'm concerned, SS9 can have his grandparents' numbers back on there and maybe a few of his friends. I only hope BM is smart enough to realize the restrictions were done because of how SHE was using the phone, not her son.