Okay, I feel like venting some more about BM and the situation with SS9. I don't expect anyone to actually read all of this, but if you like stories full of stupid drama, maybe it'll be entertaining. lol. I just feel like getting it all out there, history and all. Believe this or not, this is only part of the things she's done since DH and I have been together.

So my DH and I started dating in Dec. of 2009. He and his ex wife (BM) had finally split in July of that year (09). She stayed in the house that they'd just signed on for another year, but had a new boyfriend within a matter of weeks of the split move in with her. DH moved in with his mom, which was where he was living when we began dating.

Funny that the very first night we were supposed to go hang out one-on-one (we had been introduced by friends and had seen each other out with them the previous two weekends), he had to cancel because his psycho ex had come over to his mom's place because he refused to answer her calls and assaulted him, in front of their son and her BF (she had her BF drive her over there!!). I baulked at this and almost didn't give him a chance, as I don't do drama. But I did...

Fast forward to mid-March '10, we were falling madly for each other, everything hunky dory except for SS9's adjustment issues (he had mellowed by April), and BM had been served an Eviction Notice from her landlord for nonpayment of rent. This of course was ALL DH's fault, even though he'd been giving her close to $300/month to help with the rent up until Feb., when their divorce was finalized. My future MIL and I had finally convinced DH that he shouldn't be paying rent when he isn't living there, and she already has her BF living with her, plus one of her scumbag friends in another room! He could not legally get himself off the lease, so the only option we could see to remedy the situation was to have BM move out and us move in the last few months of the lease.

She moved out and left the place FILTHY dirty... and I mean filthy... rotten food in the fridge, puppy pee soaked carpets, etc. So we had to do a massive overhaul cleaning that took 5 days before we could even move in. BITCH. All the while she was still hounding DH for money every couple weeks.

So we bailed her out of her lease problem, she leaves over $300 in back utilities for US to pay. And meanwhile she trashes the 2003 XTerra my DH's parents had bought them as a gift and DH had graciously left for her (along with ALL their possessions). Trashed it as in... blew up the turbos in it because she never changed the oil.

Might I add that when she latched onto DH 9 years ago she was 19 and he actually tried his best to be rid of her but then she got... OOPS, pregnant! And thus began the nightmare for my DH. But she blames DH for everything, even though he never really wanted to be with her in the first place!

So time passes, she continues to do stupid, irresponsible things whenever the chance presents itself.

DH and I get engaged in Feb. of this year. DH uses some of his tax return to buy a ring for me. What does she do? Texts "Oh, you better not spend more than $400, because that's money you should be using for your SON!" Oh yeah, like you have ANY SAY in this?? Besides having FLIPPED OUT and left a screaming, crying, CRAZY voicemail on DH's phone because he dared to claim SS9 on his taxes on HIS YEAR (they alternate), he gave her $400 of his return! She would NEVER do something like that!

According to DH what happened when they got "engaged" was that he bought her a promise ring, and she interpreted it as an engagement ring. Apparently he'd spent no more than $300 on the ring. A few months later the "oops, I'm pregnant!" happened, but they didn't finally marry until their son was over a year old. So apparently she feels she can put a price tag on MY engagement ring. Righto, sister, he openly told you he doesn't believe he ever even fell in love with you.

What's even better is that she asked DH if I was pregnant when we got engaged. As if the only way she sees a woman can get married to a man is because she's trapped him by getting pregnant! Bahahaha!! Sorry hon but some of us girls have a little more self worth than that.

Not too much later than that, she started racking up data fees on the phone that DH and I had gotten SS9 for emergencies and to call us. (She doesn't always have a phone). When I confronted her with it, I put my foot down and told her that I don't like being taken advantage of, etc.. She hung up on me, and we proceeded to get into an argument via text, where she accused me of making "assumptions" about her, etc.

She refused to pick up or drop off her son at our house for a few weeks after that because she didn't want to see "THAT BITCH!" (me).

Her BF finally dumped her for good (he'd kicked her out once but took her back) the week before our wedding. We were married Aug. 6th

She texted DH at 11:00pm on our WEDDING NIGHT asking to talk to SS9!! We were already enjoying our solitude at our hotel, SS9 was at his cousins house!! OMG... stupid woman!! At least DH had enough sense to ignore the text.

BM was living with this new guy ("friend," DH and I both think that's BS) before our honeymoon week was even over.

Over the years DH and I have been together, whenever she goes off on these crazy rants via text message, she goes on and on about how she "supported" my DH over the years. DH's version of the story was that she would occasionally, and with reluctance, be okay with him going off to do his music, snowboarding, and other hobbies. She interprets that as having been supportive. And then she brings up a time when DH jokingly told her that when he was a rich and famous musician he'd buy her a boob job, as she was always complaining that one of her boobs is smaller than the other. She actually tries to HOLD HIM TO THIS, even NOW!! She's texted... "And you promised me a boob job, and now I need a tummy tuck too!"

OMG!! How narcissistic can one person be?!