I am very grateful that I get to vent! Now, my husband and I have been married for 4 yrs. My husband was with his ex for 5 yrs, 2 boys and she was found clinicaly bipolar and he got custody. I knew that going in, I had a 6 yr old daughter at the time and now we have a son together, 2 years old. The kids mother has done some very awful things, even though my husband has custody he still has to provide medical insurance for them because that's what was on the divorce decree, men don't read their paperwork, so she takes the kids to the doctor when they're in her possesion, every 2 weeks for the weekend, now she gets refferals from doctors and sets up appointments at specialists which we have to pay for, my husband really stands up to her and takes no bull but in return she calls Child Protective Services for medical neglect, now I don't know if anyone has ever had to go through something like that but I was in shock when a CPS showed up on my front step demanding to see the children,we were cleared naturaly because we had all of our receipts from doctors appointments and a cabinet full of their prescriptions and Child Protectice Services ordered me and my husband to press charges against her(police noproof)even though the person who called CPS only knew my husbands 2 boys birthdays and info nt my daughters or our sons and might I add that she's called them several times and CPS ordered us to contact the attorney general to make her pay child support,I honestly don't know what to do anymore I have been strong and understanding but I have taken care of my husbands children since they were 3 and 1 along with my kids, it was hard but we finally made a family together and the kids don't even know who this woman is that they visit, I wonder where are the father's rights and mine as his new wife, at first I didn't want to get involved and believe or not there are people out there, even lawyers, who will tell you that even though I am breaking my back to raise these children that I should stay out of it because my husband is the one who should fix things if he wanted to and that she is their mother and there is nothing that I can do to change that and learn to live with it, which I have done and my husband is actually a strong minded guy and cuts her no slack but how can you talk to someone who loves the fact that she is bipolar, I don't know but I really need some feedback, should I fight and stand up for myself or let it go like I always do because I absolutely know that I can't change her and I have no rights and I need to just focus on my 2 kids no matter how much my hubands 2 boys don't even understand why they visit this woman, should I help my husband fight or just but out?