Just had a big blow out with DH about parenting. I thought he was being too hard on BD12, I intervened, he totally lost it. I told him it has seemed lately like he is very touchy and with both BD12 and SD12, almost every time he has a conversation with them where it doesn't go exactly right he escalates his anger very quickly. Apparently he took this to mean I was saying he was a bad father and I didn't want him dealing with the kids anymore. At one point he said "fine, then I won't say anything, I won't do anything, you just deal with the kids." I was like "Oh really, if that's an option then why I don't I get to do that? can I just say I want to walk away from my responsibilities and not have to be a parent?"

Yelling, cursing, crying, BD upstairs crying in her room from original conflict.

It ended up all right, we both calmed down and had some good conversation about what we both need to change. I do need to stop being so critical trying to step in all the time. I feel like I only step in when there is a real injustice and the kids deserve to have me stand up for them, but from his perspective I am just criticizing and disabling him all the time. I think I need to be more aware of how my words and actions affect him.

I sent him upstairs to make up with BD.

We are supposed to be going out tonight to celebrate Valentine's Day and our wedding anniversary. He planned something special, a surprise, I don't know what all we are doing. I just feel drained and stressed now and I wish all this could have happened on a different day.