My DH totally knows. But my problems are not with him or the skids, only BM. So there's no reason he would have a problem with it. I imagine it would be totally different for anyone who's frustrated with the kids and spouse.

BB

- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)

for the simple fact that I am not nice when it comes to venting about SD9 (aka Blabb) and BM (aka Warthog). I tell him what I think about those two and what I think about him, but I definitely do it in a nicer way than I do here lol.

Besides, this is my place where I can let loose and not have to worry about DH telling me, "Oh, stop overreacting!"

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." Dr. Seuss

And I don't think he'd have a problem with my being here, because he belongs to several divorced dads support sites. Besides, like belle, my problems aren't with DH or SDs, but with BM.

I'm with Secondwife19 on this one.... I am much much nicer in person about my "issues" lol and on here I can rant however I want to... I don't worry about DH finding out because bless his heart he can barely log on to the computer let alone find any sites I visit. I am actually even sitting by him on the couch right now and he has no clue.... he thinks I'm facebooking.. LOL... If he looks over I just switch screens... lol... he sure doesn't know you can have two browser screens open at the same time! God love him!

what u write about...
i would never tell DH willingly. He would be angry with me for talking badly about his daughter. And our personal life...

He says he is happy that I have a place to vent my feelings about BM and the skids. Anything I say on here, I can say to him. He knows my frustrations because he has the same ones, thanks to the severe PAS...

Even if there was something that I say on here that would piss him off, I would say it anyway. Because I am not really good at hiding my feelings. I pretty much say what is on my mind all the time, whether someone wants to hear it or not. It's better than holding it all in and stressing myself out about it. My head would fly off!

Love

If I was just venting about BM I might tell him, but since I vent about SD too-- that would likely just make him mad. He might not be happy with the way SD is acting or the path she has chosen, but it is one of those things where you can criticize your kid, but if someone else does then you get all defensive. Oh and I've vented about BF so that is a double no on telling him about this place. Plus BF is super- duper private and most of his family doesn't know about the problems with SD/BM/ or us as a couple. I don't think he would like that I've talked my issues to strangers on the internet, since he can't even seem to tell those closest to him/us.

I think of this place as my sanctuary with like-situated and like-minded people. It keeps me sane. It keeps me from exploding. If it keeps me sane, then I'm not going to justify this site to anyone. I'm taking care of me and my needs by being here. In a step-situation, I feel my needs are usually dead last, so I put myself first with my venting here.

But he has no idea where or what I am saying and I make sure to sign out every time. I am using a fake name to protect myself in case someone accidently stumbles on this. It's good to have a safe place to vent with people who understand but DH doesn't need to know every single thing I am saying. We all have bad days and by tomorrow, I might be over it. Better I tell you guys than someone local and have it get back to the wrong person.

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

I don't tell. When I complain he gets upset and tells me I need to let it go. This is such an excellent outlet since I've joined.

It is none of anyone's business. What...I can't have a private thought? Nonsense.

Does your BF or DH tell you everything he says about you to his buddies? Most likely not. Plus his kids probably do no wrong in his eyes so how could you vent to him about his kids without him taking some kind of offense? So no, don't tell him and be very careful about keeping this site away from him. It seems for many of us that this is the only place we can be totally honest and not be judged.