Sometimes I think these things are just made up
I read an article posted on Yahoo home page. A woman is upset because her EX and his new wife are naming their child the same name that she had given their baby that she miscarried.
When "confronted".. the guy initially goes deer in the headlight.. like he didn't remember that was the name given to his dead baby.
Then.. he kind of acts like maybe it's honoring the dead baby.. and no.. he won't ask his new wife to change the name.. because it's her baby.. and his EX can't tell her what to do.
First.. how in the heck does this guy forget the name that his ex gave their baby that she miscarried?
Second.. if you were the new wife.. how much of an ICK would it be to name your kid after your husband's dead baby with another woman?
The article didn't give any underlying reason why this name "Gabriel" was chosen other than his new wife "liked it".. talk about your baby not being your husband's first.. you name it after the dead one.. gross.
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Maybe the new wife doesn't
Maybe the new wife doesn't know about the name. The guy is either an idiot or just truly doesn't give a crap about the ex or the dead baby. Some guys are just that cold and unfeeling. Just self-absorbed and only care about themselves. BUT - how does the ex even know about the new name? Is this loser still talking to her? Unless she has kids with said loser and that will be their baby brother. If that's the case, it's more proof that she is better off without this sociopath of an ex in her life and she should go as no contact as possible. From what i've seen and lived, there are sub-humans who live among us and pose as "great guys."
ETA the guy might say
ETA the guy might say something to the new wife like "My crazy ex has it in her head that she was going to name this baby we never had Gabriel. She's trying to cause drama by telling us what we can name our kid. She totally wants me back."
The article said that their
The article said that their joint son came back with visitation with the news.
and... I can't believe he forgot what his EX called the baby she lost.. that is some real denial jerkiness there.
I mean.. maybe the person writing the article is a HCUBM.. but I still would not in any way want my new child to have a name associated with his EX and ex relationship..in any way.. it's weird and gross.
Oh, for sure it's all kinds
Oh, for sure it's all kinds of messed up. My recent view of humanity just sadly has me believing that it's possible this woman is telling the truth. After i left my ex, i had to close my heart and mind to whatever he did. He was my ex and his life was not my business. That's why i divorced him.
One messed up thing my ex did
One messed up thing my ex did was cut off all my then-daughter's hair when she was on his custody time. I picked her up from daycare and what was previously very long beautiful blonde hair was a very short bob. She was maybe 7. He donated it to Locks of Love and she bravely said it was for kids with cancer so she had to do it. Guys will do some messed up things. He knew i loved her hair. All i could say was "Yes, you were very brave to do that. It looks so nice..."
My bet is... he sold it.
My bet is... he sold it.
Donated it... does not pass the smell test with this kind of POS.
Something is off about this.
Something is off about this. I can't see why anyone would name another baby the same name as one that was a miscarriage.
It used to be common practice
It used to be common practice to name a new baby after a dead child, back when child mortality was a lot more common.
Not sure it is a choice most would make these days. But then people do name kids after other relatives (dead or alive) to honor them so maybe it isn't that much of a stretch.
If this isn't made up it certainly was carefully selected to get a lot of clicks and comments.
Perhaps if the next child was
Perhaps if the next child was in the same family.. but having your EX use the name with his new partner is beyond insensitive.. and with another joint child.. she will have to hear about it.. it's going to be hard to just ignore it.
If her SO did it to be cruel... if I were the new wife.. I would take note of the depths of his black heartedness when someone is no longer useful to him.
I'd Say Not Made Up
While a completely different topic, a divorced friend of mine shared the info that her ex husband remarried on HER BIRTHDAY. That's after he left her because she was unable to have children. Like really dude? You didn't remember the birthday of your ex-wife of 16 years? Purposeful....and shameful.
Nothing a quick call to the
Nothing a quick call to the new future XW won't fix. "XH told me that your naming your new baby in honor of the baby we lost. That is so sweet of you. Thank you so much for honoring your child's deceased older brother. My son no doubt will love that you honored his full sibling with that name."
See how quickly the new future XW changes that name.