This evening I went to dinner with five of my best friends. All but one have children and all are married, one with four step-children. I told them my story about being the evil step-mother without trying and they all laughed with me and agreed that my bf can be a real d-bag when it comes to his kids. All mothers thought that my bf was acting completely ridiculous and they said that I did nothing wrong. Tonight I spent two hours with five other women and eight children and not once did I feel uncomfortable or unwelcome. I got hugs and kisses and chocolate on my sweater. From children who have been conditioned to love me. It felt great to know that I do have friends who understand even though they are not in my situation. They are mothers who love their children and mothers that agreed with me, the stepmother. Next time you're feeling bad about your own domestic situation, I suggest you spend some time in a domestic situation like that. Get a bottle of wine, some girlfriends, and some little kids. You'll feel great after.