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PROZAC... SHE IS NUTS

FlaminMama's picture

Okay so the calm before the storm, was I ever right. So the deal, we didn't get the kids on Thursday like we were supposed to, she finally did call my husband on Sunday and said that the kids didn't want to see us. Then she proceeded to make the claim that my husband beats his son, let me tell you, he has rcvd 2 spankings within a 3 year time period, how is that beating. Next we find out that Thursday he had a breakdown and they took him to the Dr b/c he wouldn't stop crying so the DR perscribes him (an 11 yr old) PROZAC...... HELP ME

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lovin-life's picture

He must be carrying such a huge emotional burden. His mixed emotions must have just spilled out...what these young kids go through sometimes.. A huge emotional release doesn't necessarily mean a "breakdown". We've all reached a breaking point at sometime and just spent hours crying. BUT PROZAC!!!! What about counselling to help sort out what he's feeling & dealing with.

If the mother is playing parent alienation games and using this poor boy to do it, you guys better get going with professional involvment!! Sometimes the kids that age will tell the parent they're with at the time what they want to hear...or exagerate..as they try to tiptoe their way between themselve/mom/dad/steps,...then it becomes so hard for them to fix..or even understand..and deal with..

OK I have few questions.. Did she ask that the child be put on medication and the doctor obliged or did the recommendation come solely from him?

Can you speak to the doctor directly? Set up an appointment..see the medical records..discuss what symtoms were presenting..and discuss treatment options..even if you have to go along with meds temporarily. Have the doctor recommend GETTING HIM TO A PSYCHOLOGIST..etc. and deal with the root of the problems. Another professional may by outraged that he is on MEDS!!!!

A third party may be just what he needs to talk to someone where he's not caught in the middle and can help him sort out what he's not old enough to articulate!

My 13 yr old just went through a phase where she didn't want to see her Dad. She has issues with him..we/he gave her some space. But after a period of time we had to push her back. We tell her ...You have to spend time together to resolve your differences and build your relationships...you can't run from things. She may never resolve her differences..but she will have an opportunity to try...

Maybe he's crying because she's forcing him to make these allegations. Or maybe a little slight from a "spanking" hurt him more deeply than you realized (his fellings) and Mom is seizing the opportunity and running with it..making him even more upset!!

Talk to the Doc. Get a referal for Child Pscholgist that deals with children of divorce if she hasn't! If she refuses she'll look like an unfit parent!!! She can't deny her son the help he needs to heal his emotional pain...

You all have to contribute to the process...you are all in his life..

FlaminMama's picture

He threatened suicide a few months ago. Claiming that he hated himself and blah, wanted to die. Well we (biodad and me) took that very very seriously and we got him into therapy. He went a total of 2 times, the second time the therapist told his mother that he needs a psych eval, so they go (biodad and biomom) and sit at a hospital for 8 hours why he got this done. After that biomom cancelled the appointments w/out telling us. Now this happens. I tell ya, she is so CRAZY. So now my hubby is on the war path, I just need to know how we go about getting the kids away from her. He has an appt w/a lwyer just curious if they are going to tell us to take a hike.

lovin-life's picture

I'm glad you guys are talking to a lawyer. She can't withhold treatment against your wishes & doctors advice...if he's in so much trouble emotionally and thinking suicide at his age..that's serious and she really is risking his life....

You were right.....she's totally nuts!!!! These messed up ex's do so much harm to their own kids....... I just don't get it!!!

We have a "case law" site in Canada..where many of these kinds of women have actually lost custody. They don't always win by default of their gender anymore...

Good Luck with the lawyer...
Let is know how your SS is doing....

FlaminMama's picture

We are still "getting evidence" we know that we have her in contempt, the rest of it is hearsay, until we have concrete. you know her word against his. Blah, Blah. The good thing is that my husband is prepared to BATTLE until he gets what he wants. Which is reassuring, I just hope he keeps going Full steam ahead.