Another DH divorce decree nightmare
Ok so he is supposed to pay for half of all medical and school related expences and it says 'payment is to be received 15 days after notice sent'.
She waits 6 months to send us a statement but expects us to pay it within 15 days? Just got a statement going all the way back to February! $500 bucks worth of stuff.. yeah, so I can't just squeeze another $500 bucks out of our budget within 2 weeks.
She waits 6 months to send a statement in my mind means we should have 6 months to pay her!
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That really sucks. I could
That really sucks. I could see if it read CP needs to send statement within 30 days of expense with NCP having then 15days to pay concerning medical . It should have also included detailed guidelines for the school expenses (does this include registration fees and supplies? Sports, elective activities? Does it have to be joint agreement? Blah blah).
Whoever actually penned your Dh's divorce degree had good intentions but seriously underestimated the tremendous loopholes and leeways it allows.
Yeah, I agree she should be
Yeah, I agree she should be required to submit a statement every month instead of every six months. Is there anything in the wording that says how long after expenses are incurred that she has to submit them?
If DH only has 15 days to pay expenses, BM should be required to submit expenses within 15 days of the expense occurring. Sometimes it's hard to anticipate all the ways people will take advantage of the wording in a court order.
Too late for this situation,
Too late for this situation, but if I were you, going forward set aside $100 a month for this eventuality. It looks like roughly that is the cost (6 months/$500) so this way the money is right there, and BM cannot manipulate this way again. Plus I am sure it would chap her ass when you immediately hand over a check like it is no skin off your nose and the money is not missed!
Oh and for right now, just
Oh and for right now, just write a check for whatever you can afford. Tell her the rest is coming, as she waited 6 months she clearly does not miss the money, and so you will pay the rest ASAP, but unfortunately she selected the month of xyz expenses. If she threatens court, let her. You have paid what you can, showing good intentions, and I am sure it will be paid before anything made it in front a judge - who will see you paid, and probably tell her off for being ridiculous
^^^^^^^^^exactly!^^^^^^^^ hel
^^^^^^^^^exactly!^^^^^^^^
hell, I might be tempted to pay a little at a time to let her take it to court.
She'll look like an asshole.
We have joint finances but I
We have joint finances but I make twice as much as he does so in all reality I am the one who ends up covering it. 25% of his takehome goes to child support. But yeah.. I should start putting so much aside in anticipation of this stuff.
Why can't he get a part time
Why can't he get a part time job to cover these expenses? Just working retail the weeks between Halloween and New Years will give him at least $3000 to use for those expenses plus a few other things.
You should not have to cover those costs.
Our BM works at a dental
Our BM works at a dental office. All SS9's dental work is done there, as part of her benefit package. She had the balls to create an invoice for work done there, and present it to DF (fiance). It was for more than $300, his share, which we KNEW she'd never paid a bill there for $600.
They lie and cheat....just to make a buck.
It's possible the benefit
It's possible the benefit package didn't include free dental care.
I taught first grade in a private school one year. Discounted tuition was listed as one of the benefits. Every other private school in area offered their employees a50% discount or free tuition. Our discount was only $25 off of the monthly rate. LOL