Why the hell is it that every single parenting item just HAS to be an argument...but ONLY when it comes to SD12?? I can say/do/teach the exact same thing to BD and DH doesn't even bat an eye...but I try the same parenting lessons on SD and suddenly it's none of my business. We've had SD fulltime for over 6 years and I still can't give DH any input on how to parent the kid. So, that's why I've disengaged, even as a full-timer. Oh, and I raised my own BD25 so I have many lessons learned from my parenting experience.