Ya know, my BF states that he does not like drama, yet when it comes to his lovely daughter, he is so wrapped up!

This morning is an example. My daughters, BD10 and BD8, and SD10 were getting ready for school. As they were walking out the door, I noticed that SD10 had one of my daughter's backpacks. Now, I know that SD10 does not have a backpack of her own, and I would not have said anything, but this was my BD10 backpack. Oh, and SD10 had been giving one of my BD8 back pack a few weeks ago!

Uh, ok, so now she has 2 of my daughters' backpacks. I asked my oldest, "did she ask for it?" BD10, "yes, she said she didn't have one" ME, "Remember she was using BS8's"

My daughter then looks uncomfortable like she was in trouble. I told SD10, "I will be talking to your father about this" and she gave me the pout.

Ok, so that was just the beginning. I get them out the door then BF calls from work.

"Did SD10 get into bed with you this morning?"

Me, "Uh, no, why?"

BF, "she came running out to me before I went to work and said she had a bad dream and was crying"

Me, "Well, no, I got her up 15 minutes after you left and she was fine. I even asked her about her night last night and she said it was fine."

BF, "oh, well, she was cring and I told her to get into bed with you."

I gave up... Obviously she wanted Daddy.... :barf:

Some more history on this. Back in May, SD10 wanted to listen to a CD but did not have a CD player, so I offered her mine. My girls and her shared a room at one time and my girl's TV was in that room, a nice sized 19 inch. My girls moved into their own room and now have a 8 inch and she still has their 19 inch. I keep asking BF to move it. THEN BF took SD10 to get her hair cut and the hair dresser said for her to use a blow dryer to make her hair look nice. BF mentioned getting her one right after saying we were broke. So I offered her my travel one. This is not a one time shot. It may look like I am just generous, but even clothes, I keep seeing my daughter's clothes on SD10 and my girls don't have as many clothes together as SD10 does!

The point being that she is not happy with just having people give her stuff, but give her THEIR stuff. Her grandmother took her out to get my daughter a present. When both coloring books ended up in the gift bag, her retort was "you gave her BOTH?!" with the pout. We go shopping and as soon as I buy her something and she knows that we will be going to more stores, "can I go home???" Me, "no we have more shopping to do," her, "I am tired!!!! I wanna go home! Can I go to Paw Paws (grandfather)?" Me, "I am the one watching you and I have more shopping to do." "Can I call DAddy???" me, "Sure..." So she goes to Grandpa's... Grandpa will even meet me to pick her up.

Now, yesterday, BF and I went to separate counseling with our counselor. The appointments were back to back. BF was after mine, he stuck around in case the counselor wanted him to oome in too with me. I asked counselor, "What can I do to help myself in this issue?"

Counselor, "I will be talking to him about this, it won't happen over night, but I think it will happen. He wants to be a good father to his kids."

Me, "well, what if he rebels about de-princessing SD10?"

Counselor, "Lets go with for now that he gets on board with it"

Me, "Well, I will tell you, if it continues, I will not be able to live with it. It is a deal breaker for me"

Counselor, "I don't think it will come to that, lets just try this for a while ok?"

I was so hopeful, I still am, but I am becoming more and more resentful of SD10.

Counselor has warned me that this will not be easy. SD10 has been on a pedastal for long enough now that she will rebel about being taken off of it. I can understand that. I want BF to love his daughter, but not make her into a monster.

I keep praying about it....