Yep- sounds like he's so angry about SS being accused of molestation, that he would rather give up his other children than have to deal with OP again. Not that I think that he's right, but if that's his choice, it makes it a lot easier to keep the kids away from the SS since we all know we cannot control what the non custodial parent does with his time (it's not guaranteed that the SS will be prosecuted). Sometimes custodial parents are blamed when abuse is brought up, and they sometimes even lose custody.

Just saying, it's sad, and will be hard for the girls to understand, but maybe in the long run will be better.

My thoughts EXACTLY.

^^^^THIS^^^^

lol. BM finally learning.

Also I'm sure it super sucks now... But if DH was so willing to walk away, makes me question where he ranks you and your kids anyways. You protect your DD! Way to stand up for her and keep her safe!

I agree. Kind of like you shouldn't blame a victim who gets sexually assaulted... Or you don't blame the abused wife. That's not on the victim, it's on the person who did the act!

While I agree 100% with the idea that a molester shouldn't molest etc...

In this case, the OP has brought up several instances where she believed that the SS had caused some injury... and intimated that in her mind it was intentional towards her child.

So..many had advised her to be vigilant in supervising her daughter if she felt that was the case. Yet, time and time again, the younger kids were left alone in an unsupervised way when SS was around.

In the molestation case, the child was not able to go to the bathroom alone.. couldn't wipe. So, OP was having to do that for her. Now, apparently SS was caught in the bathroom with the girl and may have actually been trying to help her by wiping but OP is dead set that it was molestation. We haven't gotten any indication from OP that there was any corroboration with medical or law enforcement that an actual molestation occurred. So, it is in the realm of possible outcomes that OP's dislike of the SS is projecting what she thought happened and may not be what actually DID happen.

I think that certainly that given her past misgivings about her SS that she should have been more aware of where he was to prevent future "accidents".

Sometimes you can be right.. but still suffer a consequence. Just because it's illegal to rob someone doesn't mean it's advisable for me to walk through a dangerous area at night dripping with jewels and having 20 dollar bills falling out of my pocket. It doesn't mean that I wouldn't educate my SD's on how to be safe when going to a frat party.. or at least TRY to be safe. Don't go to rooms alone.. don't get drunk.. buddy system etc... and yeah.. probably not dressing like a sorostitute. Yes, sexual assault happens to women even when dressed plainly.. or at any age etc... and yes, men should be taught to respect women, but in the event that some forget these lessons.. isn't having a good defense a good idea?

So, if you suspect your SS is intentionally injuring your young daughter, wouldn't you ensure he didn't have a lot of opportunity to do so?

Ya, this is why I didn't comment.

I was going to ask what the Dr.'s report said. I have seen Dr.'s reports for physically abused kids. It would say it. And Dr. would be required to report to CPS and that kid would already be in juvenile detention. I'd say the claims are unfounded.

If I'm correct the step son stabbed a bully who later killed someone? Seems like the child felt their life was in danger and rightly so.