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Submitted by frustrated like... on Thu, 07/17/2008 - 3:57pm

How long does it usually take for them to get it? Get the fact that they are divorced for a REASON!

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Submitted by looking4answers on Thu, 07/17/2008 - 4:19pm

I totally agree with Crayon. The BM I have to deal with cheated on my BF, treated him like total shit, but yet, HE'S the one that tore them apart.. sheesh! How can these women be so ignorant?!

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Submitted by luvdagirl on Thu, 07/17/2008 - 4:28pm

In our case I don't think BM ever figured out DH was too smart to marry her- BM was called out on calling him her ex h, so I hold no hope that BM will ever get that DH has all but forgotten her- funny thing is that BM can still convince herself that DH must care for her when the only time he mentions her he isn't talkin'bout love for sure!!!

There is no reason where logic does not exist

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Submitted by MarriedPrinceCh... on Thu, 07/17/2008 - 4:30pm

Is when THEY end the marriage (in order to marry someone else), of course blaming it on the first husband, and THEN believe they're entitled to keep all the benefits that first husband provided (the house, the cashflow, the lifestyle, etc.). That's what's truly infuriating. I love this site. I had no idea there were so many people that truly understood! Smile

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Submitted by ColorMeGone2 on Thu, 07/17/2008 - 6:41pm

Your screen name is abbreviated to MarriedPrinceCh. I'm thinking, "Hey! Cool! We must have Camilla on here, bitching and moaning about how hard it is to be a stepmother to William and Harry." Then I realized you're not married to Prince Charles, after all, just Prince Charming. I'm married to Captain Oblivious, but I'm proud to say he is in remission. Yeah, I'm a goof. Welcome to the site! You'll love us! We're fabulous! Wink

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Submitted by Sita Tara on Thu, 07/17/2008 - 4:43pm

Projects her not "getting it" onto DH. As in she told SD's psychologist that the reason he sued for custody was because he misses her, isn't over her, isn't happy with me, and wants to get her attention.

Now THAT's an interesting way to show you care, isn't it? Sue for custody?

The shrink thought it was rather humorous. She told me and DH, "I simply said to BM, ' Umm...No. I have been meeting with them for over a year, and they actually seem to get along very well with each other. So let me offer you some reassurance that he has in fact moved on and is happy. And I am a pretty good judge of that, as it's what I do for a living.' " When she told us this she had a smirk on her face.

We laughed pretty hard on that one.

So since BM is mentally ill in our case, she projects her own unhappiness onto DH and me. Interesting coping methods those BPDs have.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
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Submitted by StepG on Thu, 07/17/2008 - 6:40pm

our BM stands on her front porch with her baby from her new BF and re-lives H and her marriage and how they were so happy and then how crappy he was and then wants to know where her money is while SS is crying in the car cause she is yelling at his dad. I am waiting on her come around.

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Submitted by frustrated like... on Fri, 07/18/2008 - 7:24am

what i meant was when does BF of DH get it? does it take a constant beating from her to make him realize that whether he does something for her or not, all she's after is $$? No amount of yes's will ever make her "nice" or make us all get along...and that she never wants to see him happy or with anyone else? it's just become so very frustrating. the requests are becoming more outrageous and when he says "no" it's ofcourse my fault. but his no's arent consistent enough so if she feels he'll say yes at least half the time then why not give it a try. when he says no she literally goes into tantrum mode. it's sick. but i can't convince him that being consistent will help. he thinks no matter what he does or says the result will be the same. sooooooo, when do they get it, if ever? it's really destroying us. a lot of our special times have been ruined by her...anniversaries, you name it. but i'm now at the point of not blaming her for it, i blame him, because he allows it. he allows her to creep in...it's become a living nightmare. i have no issue with taking care of your kids and having to deal with BM to discuss the kids but any and everything past that point to me is unnecessary. her requests are out of this world. i would love to share the latest and greatest so you all could have a good laugh but not sure if she's lurking around and she'd definitely know i was talking about her with this crazy azz story. i'm literally sick over this. WHEN WILL HE GET IT. sad part is we never argue about anything else but her. i told him i might as well paint her name on the walls as a reminder of the fact that she will forever be a part of our home, our conversations and our freakin lives. ahhhhh...and like was said before...she cheated on him with a friend of theirs and ofcourse he still owes her the world for her bad choices.