So as you know this day last week came to a head when dh invited ss11 out on date day with us after already having him the entire weekend. I had been feeling ignored for as many weekends as I can remember when ss is here and when I told dh this, he turned it into a "you hate my son conversation" and how much he lives his son and he is number 1 etc. I had my bags packed and I was ready to go, it wasn't a threat.

Well dh asked me to stay and I was planning on playing it by ear this weekend and seeing if anything changed. Now ss11 will always be babied and spoiled by dh but I've accepted that. My main problem has been as being permanently glued to Dhs side where I literally do not get 10 mins to talk to dh without ss arriving at his side, shouting at him for something or asking what we were talking about. Well this weekend dh made an effort to tell ss to watch tv in his own for half an hour sat and sun. Must something so small but made me feel important again. He also kissed me and hugged me and actually spoke to me in ss presence which had not happened in forever. Last night he went for a drink with his buddy and came home got u to bed told me how much he loved me and wanted a holiday just him and me.

I think dh knew giving his wife attention was also important and in turn ss was happier also because I wasn't resentful of him and could actually spend 5 minutes alone with him chatting whereas other weekends I'd been so annoyed and upset about the whole situation it was impossible!!

Anyways hopefully dh will keep this behaviour up every weekend now because I felt like a family again for the first time in forever this weekend. Do not want to go back to old ways!!!