This story adds to my first entry. This is what happened to me this week. I am sure there are step parents and step grandparents that can relate.

My SD always told lies and "fibs". From when I first met her when she was 5, this little girl knew how to tell a lie. She would do it to get out of trouble, to get another child into trouble and when she didn't need to do it at all. She would take toys that belonged to my BD, who was 4, and put them in her bag when her dad would take her home. I started noticing things going missing so I looked in her bag one time before they left. I found a toy of my daughter's and a hair band. The next time she came over I checked it again. This time she had put an expensive reading toy in their that my mother had purchased for my daughter. I confronted her this time with her Dad, standing right there. She lied and said she had been playing with it and forgot it was in her bag. He decided to believe her! After that I would check her bag and never told him. Her lies got worse as she got older and she caused many arguments between myself and her dad.

My SD learned so many awful things from her mom. She (the BM ) would have her lie to her "live in boyfriend" when she would go see her "other boyfriend". This child never stood a chance at learning real morals, in my opinion. The BM began partying with my SD when she was only 14. She would go buy beer and let my SD and her friends drink (it got worse than that). My SD was ordered by the courts to live with us when she was 14 because her BM had let her miss 50 days of school. Talk about a rough 4 years. Until she turned 18 and could move out it was a struggle. We had good times and we had bad times. (She says that if it that had not happened she would probably be just like her mom or in prison like her sister(no relation to us.)

Sorry, I am dragging this on. My SD called Tuesday to see if we could watch the kids while she went to the doctor to get her IUD checked. She said she had been in pain since having it inserted. (I was happy she was using birth control) She asked my husband to meet her to get the kids. (I knew when she had him meet her that the BM must have been going with her even though she didn't say it). He met her at 9am the next day and came back telling me she was very upset because her mom was supposed to go with her but she couldn't get her to wake up and get out of bed. (Of course she wouldn't get up, she takes too many pills to hold her head up most of the time.) We did not hear from my SD again until 3:00. She had actually gone to the hospital to get her tubes tied and lied to us!! Why??? Why did she not tell us? We wouldn't have stopped her, it's her body. I do think 25 is a bit young to get that done but if you can't learn to use birth control then maybe it's not such a bad idea. (her first 2 kids are by her husband and the last one is from an affair, she is separated now) I just do not understand why she would go get something like that done and not tell us. She was feeling awful when she called and wanted to know if we would keep the kids all night.

I usually try to prepare for babysitting since keeping so many at one time is a lot of work. I had no time to prepare for this and so I wasn't exactly happy. We did keep them! I would never have sent them home to a mom that had just had surgery but BOY was I ever exhausted the next day.(I have Rheumatoid arthritis, but she never considers that I might be in pain.)

We made it through two days with the kids and I didn't even get a thank you. Nothing!! She never sends any food with them or diapers because usually I have time to prepare for their coming so I purchase all the things we might need. I like to get special things for my GD (we like to have a snack of ice-cream at night before we go to sleep, that's our thing) and now my GS is getting old enough that he wants certain things. We had nothing this time!! We were having to cook things and make things and try to take care of all of them.

I just think it's another case of her telling a lie when she didn't need to!! And she takes us for granted. We are always willing to watch the kids when she needs us. Her mom (who can do no wrong) can't even get her butt out of bed to go with her own daughter to get surgery. And I know that she knew exactly what was going on. She probably talked the SD into it.

I have had many conversations with her over the past few years about lies and how I hate to be lied to or "fibbed" to. She always agrees with me but yet she continues on with the same behavior. If you are raising SC and they fib a lot and you think it's just a stage or something, you better think again. If the BM is teaching them to lie and fib I don't think they ever know how to tell the truth.