I have been a stepmom to 2 grown up kids for 13 yrs now and I have 2 younger kids. Although my situation is slightly different, and some might say not as terrible as others, I still have some issues to deal with. My husband had a bitter divorce, and the ex told many lies to her sons. My husband decided to file for divorce & the settlement was done separately. He met me, we fell inlove and got married while he was still dealing with the settlement issues. They also agreed to be open about everything that will affect their kids. So my husband told his sons that he was getting married. Fast forward 3 months later, the ex called to say she was ready to sign the papers with him ending up losing part of his retirement savings, his house, cars, and everything else she could get her hands on. The papers were signed, and a month later we found out that she got married to a wealthy man. We also found out that she told her sons not tell Dad about the wedding because she was still trying to get a "fair" settlement! From what my in-laws told me, she poisoned their minds about their father & our marriage. When they first met me, the siblings said something to each other and laughed. I am ok with them when we are in the same room, we manage to get some conversations going, they are respectful enough but I know they don't really like me or my kids. When they have friends around, they introduce their Dad but never me. They seem to have accepted their Stepdad because they have no problem acknowledging him online, and the grandchild even calls him "grandpa". They take lots of photos of their Mom & the new husband and post it on a social network. When we visit, we don't stay with them because we don't feel welcome. When WE give gifts - most of the time I do, but my kids and I never get a "thank you", never get our photos posted. It's always "thank you Grandpa (my husband)" like the rest of us don't exist. I am hurt. I think I've been quiet for years already and I just want to protect myself and my kids from getting hurt more. I told my husband about how I felt, but he said I was overreacting and over analyzing things. Am I?