So much so, that the littlest things make me want to leave.

It's not so much that SS6 is a spoiled brat, that whines all the time, talks back, says mean things, barks orders like he's an adult, lies, tattles (and about things that he does all time, like last week, he tattle on his 4yo cousin, "she's whiiiiining"), or pretends to not see the BS2's hand and step on it. It's not his fault that he is such a little asshole.

It's also not because SO is a Disney AssHat Dad. This horrible condition I learned from the wonderful world of StepTalk, didn't really bother me in the beginning of our relationship either, that was about 4 1/2 years ago. I understand the parenting, or lack-thereof-parenting style, out of guilt. I don't do it but to each his own, besides, everyone parents differently. I actually thought that he was just the "give the child whatever he wants to be happy" dad. Basically, spoiling him rotten. So eh, I didn't really care, it's not my business how someone raises their kids. And besides, I assumed if he's like that with SS, he would sure be the same way to any children we had together right?! Riiiiight??!! WRONG! (surprised?)

StepTalk, why didn't you come into my life 5 years ago?!!! Why?!

Personally I think it's more than just Disney Dad syndrome, because I now believe he's also afflicted with Double Standard syndrome, Preferential Treatment syndrome, and a dash of "First Born Asian Son" syndrome. He is Asian, I am not, so I'm not 100% sure on that one. I've read about first born Asian boys getting special treatment, being the heirs to everything, raised on pedestals, GIFTS FROM THE oh gawds... And when I think about how he deals with our now 2yo BioBabyBoy vs how he dealt with the "precious little princess boy" when was 2yo, 3yo, 4yo, up until now. I find it very confusing and mind boggling. And not to mention, the double standard he had on my now teens-young adult BK's pissed me off. I didn't notice it right away. It was mostly very subtle. But I feel like such an idiot. I was deceived by his wonderful outside, when he was really just a prick on the inside.

When I did notice, Hell broke loose and has been beside me, holding my hand for the last year...
Before this, I have always been very easy going. Like I said, bad parenting and spoiled brats generally don't bother me. I've never even complained about his behavior. But I think that's one mistake I made, since no one has ever told him SS is a brat, he doesn't think he is. In his eye, I never complained, therefore, there was nothing to complain about.

So since Hell has been my latest best friend. I basically told him, "Hey be a Disney AssHat if you want. Give the precious little princess boy whatever he wants. Let him talk back. Never scold him. That's your choice....BUT you so much as comment, criticize, mock, discipline, show any type of double standard or disrespect to my kids including our baby. If you are even close to being an asshole to them. You better watch your ass! Cuz I can hurt you real bad....by being an asshole to your precious little princess boy".

Things, since then, has been going really well. He's still Disney AssHat.
I must say Hell has never been so kind.

But GUESS WHAT?! He might slip a little or commit the most minor of offenses and anger and resentment will pop right up and I swear, I'm pissed all over again that I let him in my life.