So... our family is a bit more blended than I would like to admit. My SD is very close to her step-dad, he is like a father to her, she calls him dad! She calls his mom grandma, ok we are good!! Right?!? :?

I don't care, I am her SMom, what really irritates me is that they expect my DH to actually share custody with them! I mean, of course we don't to completely cut them out of her life, they are part of her life. We are VERY grateful that they have accepted her as if she was one of their own, I wish I could do that. But, they act as if we HAVE TO share every bit of information with them.

My SD will be moving with us, meaning she will permanently be living with us, unless the courts say otherwise. I call step-grandma to request my SD transcripts, shot records, and other paperwork that I need to enroll her in school here with us, as soon as I finish she starts bitching at me... "WHY?!? what do YOU need that for? you mean I AM NOT getting her? why not? I don't like this!" So, I calmly explain to her that due to legal circumstances SD will have to stay here. Again, I know that they want her, but I think she could've asked this differently or less insulting. I don't know, I feel as tho I have thinner skin than I thought I did. Whatever, she cannot do anything about it. It does make me feel warm and fussy inside to know that her stepies on the other side love her so much that they are willing to argue with me over jurisdiction.

SD and I are moving forward, I think we are getting used to each others quirks. I still don't feel like we have bonded, it has only been a month since she has moved in, but at the very least I don't feel as resentful towards her as I did in the beginning. I also know how to talk to her so that she doesn't take everything I say as an insult, so with small step, we will arrive to a good place soon!