Choke on that BM!
DH gets a text last night from BM at 11:00 p.m. Really?? Anyway, text says "I'll pick up skids at 11:00 a.m. I am coming to get them early because they have a pool party to go to" dh must have said ok. Tells me "BM will be here to get the boys at 11:00 tomorrow morning." He will be gone by 7:45 for day two of a tournament. I say "No, I am taking the kids to church in the morning (hello...this isn't a new thing...) so she will have to come and get them later than that. I should be home from church at 11:45. She can come then". He says, "oh yeah...Sunday tomorrow. I'll tell her" BM is not happy....OH WELL!
I want to get them early for this pool party! Response "they will be at church and not home until 11:45. You can come then"
That's right BM! I am taking them to church like I always do. Why? Because it's important for them to go. They can make choices as adults as to what they want or they want to acknowledge and participate in religion, but right now they will go. They go every other Sunday because we only have them every other weekend. Pool party? Too bad. It's on OUR time. Remember...we aren't accommodating you or the skids in OUR time anymore when it is to go with you somewhere. YOU fucked that up. So you can pick your kids up AFTER church, and kiss my little ass when you do so!
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Yeah BM choke on that !!
Yeah BM choke on that !!
Glad you guys didn't waiver , hopefully you continue this behavior. If you continue, you will set a routine.
Church is definitely a place they need to be to learn ~ " morals".
Exactly how I feel Easy! She
Exactly how I feel Easy!
She wants to know "what are they going to get out if it? Do they really need to go? ". Yup...when they're with me they do...and they need it. Maybe they'll gain a moral compass and some conscious. Maybe they will choose to live to be good people who want to help and support others rather than try to tear them down and wreck marriages. That would be good.
I am not a over the top
I am not a over the top religious person ~ my father's family was religious church every Sunday n if I stayed over my cousins house I was expected to go to church with my grandmother.
I went to catholic school from 7th on up ~ although I was baptized presbyterian.
I think church is a must for children ~ teaches them treat others how you want to be treated ~ the lessons of life. This world has become do damn selfish n narsisstic.
i love this! It's great when
i love this! It's great when you can stand up to BM. But here is what I truly love- a church going mamma who still curses and says it like it is!
I can go to church, be a Christian and still use swear words and kick someone's ass!
You go!
The way I see it, God sees what we put up with in our lives. He knows what is truly in our hearts. he probably agrees with you and isn't gonna care you thought evil things against the BM...
I am Christian. I believe in
I am Christian. I believe in God. I have a strong faith. However, I am not so perfect and judgmental to think poorly of people who choose not to.
Yes I curse. Yes I think evil (and often say like to you guys) mean things about BM and MIL. I drink. Etc. I am human. Doesn't mean my heart isn't pure and God fearing.
Jesus turned water into wine...so that must have been specifically for us SMs (just kidding)
Morals and values are important and my children need to learn them and be exposed to them.
I love the Miranda Lambert song, A Heart Like Mine....I sing it loud
Um.. if she INFORMED you she
Um.. if she INFORMED you she was picking the kids up early... on your time.. and your letting her pick them up even ONE minute early your still accomidating her.
The usual pick up drop off
The usual pick up drop off time is between 12-2. They really don't have a SET time. I think it's supposed to be 2 but we often do noon. And she can sit in my driveway until I get home from church. Maybe we will stay for coffee and treats today
Although actually, I dint mind her getting the skids out of my hair for the week. But I DO want them to go to church with me. And then I'm going to go watch my hubby play
Meerkat...the exchange time
Meerkat...the exchange time is to occur sometime between 12-2 depending on what the parent with the kids has going on...but it means a time is agreed upon between 12-2 each week, and the time is decided prior to exchange day. This has been due to kid activities or family functions so if something is going on the parent can keep them as late as 2 pm but not expect the other parent to pick them up before 12 pm. So she specified a time PRIOR to the earliest pickup. This "grace" period works for us as the kids are involved in a lot of activities.
Fighting....what happened?? The usual. I came home from church about 11:50...BM nowhere around. I had previously set up an exchange with my exH for my bios where I would go to his place and show him the therapy exercises for this week for BS8 that was assigned at our therapy session. Had to call exH and explain that I would be there as soon as BM picked up skids. Skids asking "when is BM coming? Are you supposed to bring us to her house?" My answer, " Nope. She said she would be here at 11:45. I don't know where she is". At 12:30 YSS finally says "I'm texting her to find out where she is!" She doesn't answer. So YSS calls her. She doesn't answer. BM pulls up to the house at 12:45. As this is occurring OSS says "Well you know my mom isn't on time very often. She is primal ably running late. She probably lost track of time and then realized it was late and is scrambling to get dressed and racing here". Yeah OSS she's such a BUSY person...I'm sure that's it! (Note sarcasm in my brain).
So she came and got them an HOUR after she stated she would. What about that pool party the kids were supposed to go to that was the reason she wanted them early? I call bullshit. And I call bullshit on being an hour late. I can't stand that woman!