I shouldn't be surprised anymore
How does BM find the time/energy to lie constantly (but not consistently) to everyone she talks to? On several occasions she's been called out by various relatives and she never has an explanation, just a threat to never let them see SD again. This has kept her on the invite list for every family function that falls on her weekend because she will not let SD attend with anyone but her. How do you deal with someone who is constantly playing games? It seems like a lot of people on here have difficult BMs and I'm just wondering how you change the rules so that this person doesn't ruin every holiday, every weekend and every event. This is literally every time we are supposed to have SD. Today is a perfect example...supposed to be our weekend and BM has decided to take SD camping an hour away. She tells us we can go get her if we want to see her. Three years later and this is STILL going on. Everyone says call the police and enforce the order. Has anyone ever done that? I worry that it would scare SD and cause more harm than good. How do you hold your ground and show you aren't kidding?? SO just left to go drive an hour to pick up SD. I'm getting sick of always having to change our plans just because she wants to stick it to SO
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Some of us have the opposite.
Some of us have the opposite. BM refuses to do anything with or take skids anywhere. If there is a holiday weekend or if there is a sports activity, we have to do all of the running and work bc she is too lazy to do something for her kids.
I wish that was the case in
I wish that was the case in our situation. We should have had SD5 at 9am as per the order. It's now 3:45pm and SO has an hour drive ahead of him to get her. BM just won't answer calls, texts or emails when it's convenient for her. Another day missed over this game
We went thru this. First, he
We went thru this. First, he shouldn't have driven an hour to pick her up. Just cannot do things like that because it teaches BM she can do what ever she wants.
Next time it is your DH time, have him text BM letting her know a cop is going to meet you at the pick up site to ensure he gets her. See if that gives her a wake the fuck up call.
If this is not put to a stop, this is how it will be till SD is 18.
I would love to have the
I would love to have the police enforce the order and they said they can as long as we show them a copy. I just worry it would scare SD. Have you ever had to take it this far? It sounds ridiculous but I'm also worried it will make BM act even crazier
DF has had to do this. He
DF has had to do this. He called BM and told her he was on his way to pick the girls up. She said no. He jumped in the car and called NYPD while he was driving over.
They met him at the building. He showed them the court order and they made BM hand the kids(9&7) over. The officers did notballow DF or BM to argue. They played and joked with the girls outside the apartment while BM and her sister took their time packing the pile of garbage (clothes)they put in the suitcase.
It sounds like BM knows you
It sounds like BM knows you both are afraid. How old is SD? All you have to do is explain to her how much you both love spending time with her and a change needed to be made.
My DH use to let BM walk all over him. It took a while for her to learn life needs to be fair for both mom and dad. My DH would of driven an hour like yours just did about 3 years ago. So glad those days are over.
Your DH needs to grow a pair. Mine did and life got better.