The princess is graduating
So SD will be graduating high school in May. My DD graduated 3 years prior. We didn’t spend a lot of money on a party for her. I made cupcakes and food for her friends but I did spend months making her some momentos of her life through pics from ideas on Pinterest. Now SD won’t have such a simple little gathering. You see, they have to rent out a venue for her, cater it and I’m sure have entertainment. DH keeps asking me if we can make her something like I did for my daughter. Tonight he gets specific and starts naming everything that I did, a picture album, a video, big wood initials covered with pics, etc. For some crazy idea, he thinks I am going to make everything for SD that I did for my own. This is what bothers me.,,besides the point that SD won’t even speak to me when DH isn’t in the room. SD has her own mom that does things for her. My DD just has me. Why should I have to match everything for SD? Her whole graduation weekend is blocked off for parties etc. I get that but somehow I haven’t forgotten that when my DD graduated, it was our weekend with the skids. DH refuses to swap weekends. She only got so many graduation tickets and he was threatening to not even go if we didn’t get tickets for the skids who have no relationship with my kids. He finally agreed to go but had to rush home immediately because he felt guilty leaving the skids home so he couldn’t even have lunch with my family from out of town. No...I don’t forget crap. My kids may be older and go through it first but one should really think about that. I may be considered a terrible SM but I’m not spending all my free time making momentos for SD. I just don’t enjoy going through all of her old pics and memories and I know it won’t be appreciated one bit. It would be too simple of a gift.
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Your response needs to be "Oh
Your response needs to be "Oh you want to do the scrapbook? That sounds great, Darling. I got the scrap booking stuff at ABC store, I'm sure you can find just what you need." etc. Be nice, but keep dumping it back into his lap. Don't take the flattery to heart.
You read my mind!!
OP, this should absolutely be something that DH does for HIS daughter. Or her mother can do it. NOT YOU.
Yep, I agree with simifan.
Yep, I agree with simifan.
What wonderful idea dear, I’ll send you the Pinterest’s that I got the ideas from and you can go to xyz store for supplies. I’m sure it’ll be lovely!
sorry, I won’t be able to make any of the parties, DD will expect me to spend some time with her. Just like you had to spend time with your kids when she graduated.
THIS!
You need to say this!
"sorry I won't be able to make any of the parties, DD will expect me to spend some time with her. Just like you had to spend time with your kids when she graduated."
Just read your other blogs...
Your DH can go nuts on his own scrap booking, with all the glorious memories. You know like a picture of her empty room on skid weekend because she chose not to come. Your DH sounds excessive in accomodating his kids, which affects you and family time with your own.
Let him do it as others said. I wouldnt even bother getting the materials for him either. If seeing your son once a year is bothersome to your DH, why the heck should you bother with this rude SD.
You're a genius!
"Your DH can go nuts on his own scrap booking, with all the glorious memories. You know like a picture of her empty room on skid weekend because she chose not to come."
HappyCamper, your efforts would not be appreciated or thanked but it sounds like you know that. Of course, BM and DH will be credited for everything regardless.
DH keeps asking me if we can
DH keeps asking me if we can make her something like I did for my daughter.
Tell him, "Yes, YOU certainly can make her something like I did for my daughter."
Your step daughter, nor your husband, has given you ANY reason to want to do this for her. Since he thinks that his daughter is so special that she takes precedence over you and your marriage, HE can do something special for her. You need not be involved.
Dont know
I don't know how you do it. The hypocrisy and double standards that your DH presents on pretty much a daily basis are beyond anything I have ever seen. I don't understand how HE doesn't see it????
Point his hypocritical ass to Pinterest and let him figure out a "project" for SD .
Nope!
Nope I wouldn't do that, I would say well my DD didn't have a party like this when she graduated, so I feel the party is enough.