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Harleygurl's picture

Dirty, as in personal hygiene, or stupid? DH and I had to deal with both items this morning out of BM just to get a letter faxed from the school administration to the doctor for SS7's follow up appt tomorrow. We both work full time and go to work at 6:30 AM and can't make it to the school to take care of this item. BM couldn't because she couldn't figure out how to fax a letter for one and it would require her to actually get dressed and leave the house for two. Simply couldn't handle it. Sweet talked the teacher into doing it for her. It's not like she has a job or does anything all day. Amazed yet again.

Weigh in with your worst BM stupidity or grossness.

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kathc's picture

LOL, at least your BM HAS an "occupation"! Heck, I'd be super proud of BM if she could manage to work at all.

just.his.wife's picture

Stupid, yes.
Ignorant, yes.

Not dirty. Though none of her mug shots are attractive. }:)

AngelOfMisery's picture

unless that dirty hygiene is lice. The kids always came to us over the Holidays head full of lice. I sometimes think she purposely sent them to us that way. They moved so many times and still end up with a head full of lice. the BM was blaming were she was living, I couldn't help to picture the fact it was the BM bringing the head lice home from the creepy dicks she danced with or lay with from the country bars.

Lazy about not doing anything about it.

She had the guts to try to say I was spreading it to them . YEAH I DON"T THINK SO... As she put it they didn't leave my home like that! BS!!

We had to check their head before they came in the house to make sure they did not have any lice and of course they came with it. Pretty sure the mother had lice. She would not go to the store or go to the doctor to get it taken care of. She would say she used a home remedy off the Internet before she sent them to us, epic failure

Harleygurl's picture

By dirty I mean she openly admits that she only takes a shower maybe once or twice a week because "she is so busy with her kids." These same kids that are frequently unclothed and dirty. I'm just not buying it. I was single mom with a 1 yr old and still managed to take a shower every day. Can we just say lazy is her middle name?

Peaches's picture

According to DH, BM2 is so nasty/lazy that she put off going to the doctor for years until she had a growth in her hooha the size of a GOLF BALL :jawdrop:

She also has terrible dental hygiene and unfortunately SS7 is following in her footsteps. 7 cavities within the past 2 years for a 7 year old?! I don't even wanna know what the inside of BM's mouth looks like :sick:

StepX2's picture

This reminds me of a funny yet sad realization I recently made. My adult SS (who is only a few yrs younger then myself) supposedly doesn't live with us yet he spends about 3-4 nights a week at our house. Anyway, with as much time as he is there, I recently started wondering why he wouldn't have a toothbrush. I asked DH and he looked at me as if I was supposed to know the answer to that question!

DH - Seriously you haven't noticed?

Me - Noticed what?

DH - SS doesn't need a toothbrush.

Me - WTH do you mean? Are you telling me he doesn't brush his teeth when he's here? (at that same moment I was trying to recall if I ever was aware of him brushing his teeth at our home and I couldn't which in the set-up I should have at least once been aware of him doing this)

DH - No, I'm saying he doesn't need a toothbrush because he doesn't have any teeth!

Further questioning DH told me that he never was big on brushing his teeth and all of SSs teeth have decayed away. NO SURPRISE THERE as SS isn't big on anything to do with hygiene and I literally am sick to my stomach when he is there.

kathc's picture

Again, I think it's a common trait in the BMs that we deal with...people with normal BMs don't need this site, they don't have to vent about the crazy...their BMs probably bathe!!! }:)

princessmofo's picture

Stupid examples of Twat waffle are she didn't know the meaning of the following words: purge, relevant, concur (she thought that meant hooker as in concubine) and lenient. In fact, she used them improperly in front of her boss, who had to correct her in a staff meeting. I'm thinking of sending her a 'word of the day' calendar for Christmas but I'm afraid the sarcasm would be lost on her.

Harleygurl's picture

I admit that I'm passive agressive in the use of large multi-syllable words in the rare occasions I have to converse/text with BM mainly because I get a secret inner joy knowing that she doesn't understand half the words I'm saying. Let's put it this way: at the appt for SS7 last week the shrink was explaining some things to all of us about SS7. DH and I understood. BM and her hubbie had blank looks. The shrink literally said "Let me put that another way that is simplified and easier to understand" and repeated what he said in a dumbed down version. Sadly, BM and her hubbie STILL didn't get it! My SS7 is surrounded by idiots most of the time!

snoopyinoz's picture

Stupid doesn't even begin to describe BM. Prime example DH sent her a text saying "you will have kids from X day to Xday. Pick up at X time" she no shit sent him a text back that said "I don't undy?" Really? I asked DH if he needed to draw her a picture. But then again this IS the same woman that had NO clue how to fill out a job application until DH showed her and MADE her do it when they were married.......

Harleygurl's picture

Well Bm has self-admitted on FB no less her level of cleanliness. She is also 50 shades of stupid. There have been times we have picked up SS7 and anyone can tell he hasn't had a bath/shower in a few days. And the clothes he wears. Yes, they don't have a lot of money. My family didn't have a lot of money when I was a kid. But at least have the clothes and the kid clean and presentable. It speaks volumes to me that I can't recall the last time we picked up SS7 and her other children, who are always looking through the window, were completely dressed, even in the winter. That's just laziness. And no one can imagine the level of hell we go through if even something as minor as a sock doesn't come back to her house in tip top shape and clean! Never mind the fact that she NEVER returns anything clothing we have purchased.

Mercury's picture

BM is just plain stupid.

I can't think about it too long without getting angry at my husband for ever subjecting himself to it in the first place. I get angry that I'm with a man who was once so freaking shallow (she is kind of pretty). In addition to the low IQ, she was raised in a very sheltered environment. DH was her first boyfriend. She doesn't understand jokes and never gets cultural references unless they pertain to the Bible. It was so bad that in their 18 years together, he purposely kept her away from some of his social groups because she was just too embarrassing. Their son is no whiz either but even he is embarrassed of her (he told me so the very first time I went out to dinner with him and his dad, lol!!)

She is dirty too. MIL went to pick up the kids one day and said that there was old dried up cat poo in multiple places around the house.