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Harleygurl's picture

Well DH went to pick up SS8. BM wouldn't let him have him. She said SS8 hates to be here and won't be coming here again because she and her husband are trying "to better their lives." Whatever. DH left but she still called the cops. Any suggestions? I told DH to start court papers against her for contempt. Oh. And this is in the state of Ohio. Help!!

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Jsmom's picture

Yep and you will spend a fortune fighting it. Sorry it just sucks when these BM's ramp up their hate against the BioDad's.

Harleygurl's picture

It is his time although he should have had him on Friday but she took him to do something with her family and DH was accommodating to her. I explained that technically she has kidnapped SS8. I told DH to call his attorney. I know the cops in her town won't do squat even though she called them. DH wasn't trying to break in. I know the cops won't do anything because I've consulted with a co-worker that used to work on that police force. I think he needs to file contempt to scared the shit out of her.

Midwest Stepmom's picture

I have a HC BM as well and have gone through this senerio. Unfortunately, it's not kidnapping on either party. The police will not get involved because it's a civil matter. However, next time dh picks up the skid he can call the police and ask for a domestic escort. This may scare your Bm in handing the skid over.

Just document and file.

We have an open CPS case because of Bm PASing ss. She refuses contact, you could start that. But beware that it might open a whole new side of crazy.

Harleygurl's picture

Dtzy: Wow! I feel for you. I feel for all children that are constantly exposed to the antics of their crazy parents. But the highlight for you is that you turned out just fine, with an excellent career, and some pretty powerful brains between your ears. That's justice enough that you didn't need your biological father to help you be a great person. Your mom and step-dad should be applauded.

tabby yabba do's picture

Thank you for sharing this dtzy. In honor of your mom and in memory of your dad, I will be even more patient with my own dad who makes decisions I don't always understand (my dad is also a step-dad, who raised me since 6 mos old while my biodad "did his thing").

Harleygurl's picture

I don't think it would turn out to be a long drawn out battle. For one, she doesn't have the money to fight him in court. And two, whenever she has done this before she usually caves within a matter of days because she gets consumed in her own personal interests (watching TV, playing games on her phone, etc.) and she wants SS8 out of her hair so she lets DH get him.

I really think he needs to file contempt charges. It would scare the shit out of her. She lives in this self constructed fantasy world that she and her husband are the best parents on the Earth and nobody can do what she does as a mother (can we say Golden Uterus anyone?). She spouts off about how she and her husband are trying to better their lives and DH is getting in the way. Whatever. Her husband got a job where I work. While there is great job security here he's not making any more money than he did at his last two jobs (and yes he worked two jobs to try to pay the bills while she sits on her ass at home doing nothing). I work in the HR department that hired him so I know what his salary is. She grasps at straws and she takes PAS to another level. SS8 wouldn't even look at DH yesterday. He repeated what has been shoved in his head "I don't want to see you dad. You are bad. You scare me." Complete brainwashing.

SS8 is going to be an incredibly screwed up adult if this crap between BM and DH continues.