Yes, I do profess love for my actions. Disengaging has done wonders for me. I sit back and giggle when I hear things now that would frustrate me, even anger me so much in the past.

Tonight we picked up SS13. He just spent a week with BM and family (stepdad, stepbrothers (16 and 18) and his sister - SD16). I sit there and say nothing. I listen to SO and SS13. SS13 says sorry he knows its annoying, but he just had to vent about them all. He said he felt like an outsider surrounded by stupid people. He felt picked on and different from all of them including SD16.

Topics? Mostly about SD because SO kept bringing most of the conversation back to SD. I think SO took this opportunity to vent once more on his feelings about her and what has been going on with her. I don't talk about her because I'm done and have written her off. I know where her future lies, I don't need to be involved. I just sit back and giggle to myself.

SD is becoming BM! Lazy and thoughtless. SS describes her and I told SO this 2 years ago, SD is constantly worried about being alpha female. Always in competition with some other girl or berating someone for how stupid they are. ISS told us that SD got two F's on her report card this quarter. SO seemed slightly surprised. REALLY??? cause she had F's most of the school year, so it shocks you that she played good student for 2 weeks the whole year then ended up with Fs the last quarter????

He told her after she got F's on her progress report, that she just lies to him anyway, so he's done being concerned about her grades.All these long talks trying to convince her its important to get good grades and how Its her responsibility and her fault if she fails. I find it funny that he had the nerve believe she didn't fail when he would not even know and she had gotten F's in her classes all year.

THEN SS says "well she always tells mom, dad never got good grades either and he did fine". Wow SO, telling your kid all about you and all those "talks" to get her to understand how important education was. HAHAHAHAHAHA, all you did was give her ammunition for more excuse making. Its GREAT! I am disengaged and SHE is hanging HERSELF. Even better, so is SO as well because all that crap I had to hear from him "oh you were mean to her" "Oh you shouldn't say that to her". Him making me look stupid by making rules and then he goes against them and hiding it from me, just so he can spoil her more. Giving in to her. Lets not forget the attitude I endured from her. Its all biting him in the ass! Me= Loving it!

SO actually made the comment that he now see's SD plays him and BM against each other. OMG! Really! Lightbulb! I say it for years and I'm an asshole though, right???

Believe me, I take no real stock in much of this. I'm enjoying it while it lasts. SO can talk all he wants to, but in his presence, she's still his baby girl. He still craves some kind of attention from her. Yet she is so disappointing.

He would NOT admit it, but I know it disappointed him when SD did not ask to come over. SS called as soon as they got back with BM from vacation "can I come over tomorrow?". SD, she's going to a friend's house (which is what I expect out of a 16 year old girl!). I wonder what its like when you see for yourself that your baby girl is a spoiled overindulged bratty child who only wants to be with whichever parent will give her what she wants??

I read her twitter, if she isn't partying/drinking yet, she will be. I know who her friends are and I know what they all do. I've told SO, hey she has a twitter if you wanted to know anything. NOPE. He says no point in keeping tabs on her, it won't do any good.

No, you don't WANT to know what is going on.

Sweet disengagement. Loving every minute of it. Probably too much. I feel sorry for him, but at the same time I tried to warn him what his type of parenting ends up with. What did I know, I didn't have kids so how could I understand?