Just read my blog from one year ago...
Wow! I cant believe how bad things were for me back then. SS15 was living here and an ass on a daily basis and my dh had lost his freaking mind and I was afraid he'd never find it! Things are so much better now. My ss15 moved out on 6/21 of last year so we are approaching that one year mark. Dh got back on his medication and that along with the reduced stress level seemed to work wonders. Right now he is a chaperone on a church trip with my two oldest! A year ago I didnt even want him to GO to Church with me because there was no guarantee of how he'd act. My inlaws were theiving from us-now we have no contact with them-any of them-and my sil is out on bond awaiting her hearing on 14 felony charges.
I guess just goes to show that things CAN change-they can get better. Sometimes we feel like things will never improve and we are stuck in our situations. I could have left dh and quite frankly I was close to it-but I stuck it out and I've got my life back. In fact, I've got it back better than before without the influence of my inlaws and without ss in our lives.
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You may be surprised. Things
You may be surprised. Things were REALLY REALLY bad for me a year ago-I think i was half crazy too from the stress-but things are completely and totally different today.
I am happy for you, you give
I am happy for you, you give me hope.
What steps did I take? I
What steps did I take? I told him ss15 had to go. He had only resided with us for 4 months-which that was a last ditch effort on our part to save this child somehow from himself. BEFORE-he moved in i made sure to tell dh that we needed an out-that if it wasnt working then he had to agree to do something about it-not just keep him there. It became apparent very soon in that not only could we not save him, but he was taking all the rest of us, including the other 3 kids down with him. so essentially I just told him he had to go.
Dh simply said, "ok". and the kid was gone the next day. our situation has been fairly bad over the years and I think that my dh was certainly aware of how bad things were and that it simply wasnt working. At one point, he did consider moving out and getting a place with ss. However, as he told me later, giving up his wife and other 3 children simply because one of his children refused to behave did not seem a good solution for any of us-so ss now lives with my inlaws-which are horrible people-in that they have no values or morals-however my ss fits in very well with them and is, in fact, just like them.