come party on my boat.... i feel the exact same way!!

i don't have any bios, but if i did, i wouldn't want sd or ss around him/her (especially sd~ the stealing, story telling, drama ~ fuck me!). so for now, they aren't allowed around my pets (or my pets don't let them around)! }:-)

sorry i have no good advice for you!

Yup welcome, I hate my SD15 2, and I think I always will. And BM, if someone mentions even their name I get crabby

mention? you're better than me, the mere fucking thought sends me into a rage.

p.s. I'm not one to hold my tongue and I have told FDH exactly how I felt about his 2 kids and he's used it against me, thrown it in my face when we fight about them and if I even mention their name he get's so defensive we end up fighting and NOTHING has changed since I told him how I felt. Atleast he knows but it doesn't make anything better if he knows so maybe keep it to yourself, I'm too hotheaded for that and it made it worse

Why even try to like her? I know you fell in love with the guy but he comes with baggage... Exhibit A is his daughter. She isn't going away and I guess your animosity shows through. Why should she like you when you don't like her?

Stop trying to like her (although I think that boat already sailed)and get along and be polite and civil for your DHs sake. He cannot just drop his daughter. Any man who did that for a woman is likely to do the same thing to you. Imagine your DH leaving you and your kids having to deal with a SM who hated them. Talk about a fairy tale!

Just agree to have nothing in common and reduce any interaction. She will eventually (and sooner than later) have a more active social life. But I always think of this .... what if your son needed a kidney and she was the only match? Would you still dislike her so much? Or would you expect her to give it up?

PS: You don't HAVE to love her. No one HAS to love anyone. If you give up that little expectation the civilness will come a lot easier.

WOW! way to make me feel like an asshole:

"what if your son needed a kidney and she was the only match? Would you still dislike her so much? Or would you expect her to give it up?"

i failed to answer your question. NO, you are NOT a bad person, simply human.

Not a bad person. You are a person and your feelings matter too. And lets face it these kids live to make us miserable.

It's okay. Look at my blog; I definitely at LEAST strongly dislike SD.

I understand... COMPLETELY. Any story that involves her (SD8) I don't want to hear, because it's always about how wonderful or great or super-smart she is, when in reality she can't do her ONE chore correctly, and most of her test scores are below-average. She is on this pedestal to her "bio" family for no good reason, and knows and exploits it. She is here at least 5 days a week, and the more time she is in her room, the better mood I am in. We can't do any family gathering without HER present (per grandma and step-grandpa) and had to cancel our Mother's Day celebration because (for once) her own idiot mom wanted her on that day. We have also had to "reschedule" Thanksgiving and Christmas. I have treated her the same as my own kids, and she sees that as an excuse to exploit her "unique" status, and the fact that (in her head) I do not qualify as a "real" parent to her. So in other words, it's ok if I buy you things and take you places, and clean up after you, but when I say to clean up your own mess or for you and your step-sister to go to separate rooms so you won't fight, etc, she looks at me like I am speaking arabic. I have these occurences every day, and those feelings of resentment everyday. I have come to learn it is normal.

I dont feel i hate ss14-I just strongly dislike everything about him }:) Hate is a strong word for me and I really dont think I hate anyone. I just dont like this kid as a person. He treats me very poorly. There's not much there for me to like and certainly not love. If my dd10 needed a kidney- I would definitely not expect him to give up one of his-I dont think he'd be willing. Thank goodnes she has other sibs that might be a match!

I totally relate. I resent my husbands having been married and having a daughter too. I wish I never had to deal with either one of them ever again. And I feel horrible about it. I'm starting to get depressed over how pissed off it makes me to have to continue living this life. I wish I could snap my fingers n SD9 and BM would just disappear. I'm tired of living my life for everyone else. I'm forced to fit this mold of family with a little brat that has her guilty daddy wrapped around her little finger. Tired of having to feel my heart pound out of anger every time my husbands phone goes off and I know that its his "first" wife and baby mama. Effing shoot me and make me gag. UGHH!!!!!!!!!!

StepOnMe101 I FEEL THE SAME WAY!!!!!!!!! SAME ISSUES! Just wish I could snap my fingers too! I'm only staying in this horrible marriage because of the 1yr old daughter we have together. I dont trust him to care for her if we ever had to share custody! I'm misreable and cry every day of my life.

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i'm right there with you. ::sigh::

i'm exhausted trying to get my sd to listen. when all else fails, my husband gives in and gives her her way. then she smirks at me like, "ha!" i can't count how many times i've wanted to knock the look off of her face.

i can't blame her too much. her mother abandoned her when she was 3 and i've had the problem child ever since. she's soooo much like her mother!

i'm thinking of leaving my marriage -- i can't take it. we've been married almost 2 years and i'm exhausted.

help!

I completely agree! I've been married over 10 years and I wish I'd never married my husband! I hate my step daughter and I resent my husband! The ex wife is a psychopath and his daughter is a lying manipulating b$tch! My husband allowed so much to go on unchecked and it scarred my heart irreparably! I'm not sure if we will survive in the long term and if not I'll have the pleasure of never seeing his kid and his ex again!