The little one lied to us.
In my last post I said about how my future step daughter got awarded at school for really good behavior.... This is a monthly thing that one kid per grade gets so yes it's above and beyond.
Well the little one has been struggling ever since he entered school at prek. His teacher contacted my boyfriend about the kids behavior for the week. Most of her complaints aren't alarming to me. The kid's playing when he shouldn't be but while I don't approve that's “normal”. Not acceptable but not alarming.
The kids aggression on the other hand is a problem. Well my boyfriend ask him why he got in trouble for hitting yesterday. The kid told us this story about being on the playground. So either another kid hurt him first and he hit back or little one hit first but either way it seemed like rough housing that got out of hand. Not ok but different from what the truth was.
Come to find out that was a complete lie and this is why we're getting mad that the teacher isn't communicating with us. She said he hit another boy while in the classroom. The teacher still want's to excuse the behavior despite the fact that we know he knows better. She keeps saying the boy won't say why he's hitting which bothers us more.
We dont' believe it's the case but the other kids MIGHT be bullying him (doubt it) or he is a bully. Either way we've asked that he speak to the schools therpist whatever person and that's not happening because the teacher keeps saying "it's no big deal."
Last year it got to the point he was lashing out at teachers and throwing rocks at peers. This is not acceptable in our home. I'm not claiming he's perfect with us but if he hits we know the exact cause and we deal with it. In this case we're being told "He hit someone but I don't know why."
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If it was a one time
Thing, Hitting, it’s not a earth shattering thing. But this is the norm with this kid. You and SO must put your foot down and stop this before he gets older and into more trouble. I would first talk to the school therapist, to work with your SS. You need to give some type of punishment for his actions. Telling him that if this continues, punishment will get worst for him
If the school will not deal
If the school will not deal with it or have him talk to the school therapist, have you considered a private therapist to try to figure this behavior out?
We only get the children
We only get the children every other weekend. The teacher keeps saying she'll involve the therapist or the principle but she isn't. My boyfriend will be calling Monday to demand something be done.
He had consquenses yeasterday because this event happened yeasterday. Today he'll have consquenses for lying.
Their mom claims she has consquenses but they haven't worked yet and she refuses to let the children speak to a therapist. We can't get around her because of when we have them.
We tried in the past and she prevented it.
The teacher may have talked
The teacher may have talked to the therapist and or the principal, but she can't force them to act. DH's call may work, but it may not. Here, for the child to be seen by someone in the school system there is paperwork. Here the school counselor would not see the child without the requisite steps being followed - first of which is a written request from the parent or the child's doctor.
If you lived here I'd tell your DH to write a letter requesting that his child be evaluated for services due to ______. Here that starts the clock and the evaluation has to be completed in x days, and then a meeting is scheduled with the parents to review the evaluation and for them to sign permission for recommended services.
Phone calls here cannot yield services. Written requests are needed. It may be the same there.
Also, the problem may be that the mother will not allow services. If she has full legal custody even a letter from DH will not get the child services. Check the CO.