In my last post I said about how my future step daughter got awarded at school for really good behavior.... This is a monthly thing that one kid per grade gets so yes it's above and beyond.

Well the little one has been struggling ever since he entered school at prek. His teacher contacted my boyfriend about the kids behavior for the week. Most of her complaints aren't alarming to me. The kid's playing when he shouldn't be but while I don't approve that's “normal”. Not acceptable but not alarming.

So the child has seen the dentist and at least for the moment my boyfriend knows who it is. For some reason Monday their mom called boyfriend demanding his drivers license number. She claimed the dentist needed it. My boyfriend of course refused to give it to her and she said she had already left the office so he couldn’t just give it to them so he demanded the contact information. After scream and then radio silence their mom finally sent the information yesterday.

It’s confirmed. We will not have the children this weekend.

Their mom messaged saying she had called and gotten the kids appointments but won’t tell him where. He asked about picking them up Friday and she said no. Turns out her new boyfriend is going to watch them for her. Sounds great, a guy the kids barely know will be watching them all weekend while moms working.

I’m hoping you guys might have a little advice.

I believe that consequences for children should be reasonable and immediate but how do you do this when there are two homes involved. In our case we have the children every weekend.

For the past few weeks we’ve had problems with them not cleaning there room completely. I don’t expect perfection but they’ll leave a pile of toys under their desk and things like that. We have them clean up every night before bed and then before they go back to mom’s.