BMs new scare tactic..help please

SO went to drop SD back at BM's today at 4 and this was the conversation:
(keep in mind that she was smiling and full of glee as she relayed this "information" to SO)

BM: So I went to the courthouse today and guess what I found out??
SO: what?

BM: Lady is going to get charged $1000 dollars for every picture of SD she has on her facebook!
BM: Its child endangerment.

BM: those pictures better be off by tomorrow!

SO: Don't threaten me.

BM: Im not but good luck hahahahaha

SO: (gets in the car)

BM: I CAN TAKE YOUR HOUSE!!!!

any thoughts?

SO has half legal custody and he gave me permission to put those pics up because that is how our family keeps in touch. BM has all of them blocked.

(in response to the comments below)

It should also be noted that only FRIENDS can see anything on my FB, SO has one but is hardly on there, he hates it, I'm the social one lol. BM has me blocked so I don't even know how she would know these are on there, and I am not picking this battle, she is. I can have whatever pictured I want on MY FB, they are not endangering SD in any way. They are up there so family that lives out of state or in state but doesn't ever get to see her can see them. And it's not like oh yeah this is my daughter, everyone knows that she has a mother and that it isn't me...so BM is just being a bitch. But you guys are right, she is probably just blowing smoke, what she said doesn't seem entirely reasonable at all.

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set the acct to private where

set the acct to private where you are only sharing with your friends...no friends of friends.

i would call a lawyer and find out. but if he has joint custody and he's ok with it i can't see how this would be a problem.

also he needs to have documentation that this is valid. her word isn't good enough!

I may be the dissenting

I may be the dissenting opinion here, but why pick this as a battle?

I don't like facebook and wouldn't want pics published of my kid, but that's me. I wouldn't go to court over it, but I'd probably report it. I'm sure her intentions are to just be an asshole to you and her ex, but still.

Is it that important for you to post pics of his kids?

Yes it is, but I undertand

Yes it is, but I undertand your point. It is important to me, my profile is private to only friends she is just being a bitch.

If its private, then how did

If its private, then how did she even know they were there? I'd just tighten my privacy then. If dad says they can be up there, I'm not sure where the fines are coming from.

She has me blocked, but I

She has me blocked, but I have a suspicion that she will unblock me sometimes just to see if she can find anything...this girl is insane mind you. SO I cant actually block her because her name wont pop up, becuase she has me blocked already, does that make sense? lol. What you said is pretty reassuring though so thank you

No, she probably has another

No, she probably has another account set up. If she unblocks you, she still can't see your stuff unless you are friends with her or you don't have your privacy settings to really private. If she can see you without being your friend, then anyone "friends of friends" at least, can see pics of the skids on your page.

I just checked and you were

I just checked and you were right, it WAS only slightly private...now its VERY private lol, thanks for the heads up.

Good. Now you shouldn't have

Good. Now you shouldn't have anymore BM problems.

Tell your DH to open his own

Tell your DH to open his own account if that is what he wants to do to put pictures of his kid up and let him post them.

I rarely post pictures of the skids, I have done it a few times where its a group shot more than anything - but I purposely avoid it and I purposely take pictures of just my bios so that I can post them up.

My parents and XH parents are another country away, pictures of my kids on FB is one way we share. I am locked down to friends only - but I am always careful what I post be it my own kids or especially the skids.

This would circumvent the

This would circumvent the problem entirely. I don't post pics of skids either. If I am tagged in a pic, I take it off. I can imagine I will have this fight with my own mother at some point. I don't know who others are friends with and I'm not real excited about strangers gawking at pics of my kid.

Same here.

I use FB like you do - to

I use FB like you do - to keep in touch with family and friends. Unlike a lot of folks out there, I have my privacy settings so tight that no one can see/find me if unless I invite them.

You need to protect yourself. Consider seeing an attorney and secondly, begin to document, document, document her behavior/actions towards DH and yourself.

I wouldn't put any worry to

I wouldn't put any worry to this.

First of all, who could she have possibly spoken to at the court house about this. It's not like there's a room full of lawyers doleling out free legal advise.

Second, even if she did speak to someone down there, it wouldn't have been anyone qualified to give legal advice. And I doubt shed have given an honest representation of the facts..... That Dh has joint legal custody.

Also, if you can really sue someone 1000 a picture if they post a picture of your kid, I think everyone would know about that. Everyone posts pic of playdates, parties, at the park ect with other peoples kids in them. If you could sue for a grand everytime someone did that, everyone would be doing it.