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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 2:50pm

ok so this really isnt that big of a deal but I am pmsing AND have caught some sort of death plague so naturally I am extra pissed off today.

Does anyone else have a pinterest account? Well I do and along with my recipe boards and boards of places I would like to go someday, my imaginary wedding board, I have a board named "beautiful people". because every once and a while while I am browsing the site I come across some super good looking people! So far my "board" consisted of Nicole kidman, sandra bullock, adam levigne and some other uber attractive people that sometimes I like to look at and remind myself that if I had loads of money I could probably be that pretty too lol. It wasnt anything sexual or even a secret!

I get up this morning and go on my pinterest and there is a picture on my main page of me and SO and its captioned "your welcome"...put under beautiful people.. well thats cute so I ask SO did you go on my pinterest? Thinking that he saw my board and wanted to add to the beauty of it by putting our picture on there....umm no.

He freaked out saying "yeah, I deleted all those naked guys you had on there. the whole world doesnt need to know who you think is hot and neither do I. you just left it up there what did you think I was going to do?" in a really pissed off bitchy voice.

first of all I didnt just leave it up there. He doesnt even have a pinterest so wtf? the only way he could have gotton to my page is if he actually went to the website and saw that i was still logged in.

and second of all there were NO naked guys. wtf.

Im sensing a pattern here and I am NOT ok with what I am seeing at all.

I can not deal with a jealous controlling spouse and I just feel like this was a COMPLETE invasion of privacy, he made me feel like I was doing something wrong and I wasnt! And I am not one to be belittled or made to feel like that. It goes deeper than that too..as in him getting pissed and telling me I cant talk to certain people. I feel like im always walking on eggshells with him.

Ive tried telling him how I feel and its better for a minute until something else sets him off. im just so irritated. most of the time our relationship is the best but this last incident is just almost too much for me...

im thinking I want to do something equally as privacy invading to show him how I feel but I cant think of anything...any thoughts?

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Submitted by asheeha on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 3:06pm

he deleted YOUR ENTIRE BOARD? not just the one category?

i'd make him sit there with me while i re pinned it all.

it was disrespectful of him to just do this. different people have different jealousy issues, my DH is so much more jealous than me. it's highly irritating but he will bring it up in a respectful way and we discuss it.

how old is he?

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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 3:20pm

oh no not ALL my boards I would have killed him lol just the entire beautiful people board except for the pic of us. He is 26.

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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 3:22pm

^same, my SO texted one of them back and told them I had a sex change and went by the name Nicholas now...kinda hilarious considering I didnt want to talk to this guy anyway but still... lol

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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 3:26pm

Oh FDH actually told some guy off who was texting me at the time--i threw a fit because the guy was the cousin of one of my close friends and was also friends with me. Sometimes he borders on inappropriate but it was still not FDH's right, as he put it, to put the guy in his place. The guy hasn't talked to me since, and come to think of it, rarely has my friend. FDH did end up apologizing profusely though and hasn't done it ever again.

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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 3:25pm

I was thinking of going on his facebook and deleting every female he has friended because the whole world doesnt need to know that hes friends with other pretty girls other than me...or something to that affect. idk lol

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Submitted by 3littlemonkeys on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 4:08pm

First, Pinterest is SO COOL. And I've only done the recipe boards so far!

Second, jealousy and insecurity can lead to dangerous consequences. I don't suggest you do a 'tit for tat' with him. Just think LONG AND HARD about this relationship. Is he often like this? The text thing makes it sound like it's not unusual...

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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 4:23pm

I know i LOVE pinterest. look up "crack potaoes" pretty much the most amazing meal ever invented lol.

He is naturally a jealous person, I just cant figure out a way to communicate that the things he does sometimes are not ok you know? This was mainly the "straw with the camel" per se...in itself, not that big of a deal, but what he did was so childish its frusterating. on a lighter note, he DID go get me lunch when he went to pick up SD AND he is out making a dump run so I dont have too...so you see he is very sweet and thoughtful..just annoying. *sigh. Ill probably have a good talking to with him tomorrow or SUnday when Im feeling better and SD isnt around.

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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 4:52pm

I agree and it would be resonable if I had a page of all men, but it was pretty much a page of actors, ACTRESSES and musicians that I am particularly fond of...and he got all butthurt about it. Smile

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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Fri, 03/02/2012 - 4:51pm

we just had a talk since we're both really calm right now lol. He admitted that it was childish what he did and he only did it because he "didnt want to see that". I told him he didnt have to look at it he could have just left the page . He finally admitted that he was jealous (no matter how crazy this jealousy was placed) and hes sorry. I told him how would he feel if he had a blog with pictures of rachel mcaddams (his celebrity crush) fully clothed or scarlett johannson in a bikini and I got pissed off and deleted it? Ive found that reversing the situation usually works...he actually laughed when I made him sit there and think about why he did what he did and he realized how ridiculous this whole situation became lol. Thanks for the advice everyone...much better now Smile

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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Sat, 03/03/2012 - 1:55am

o.m.g.

I was looking at my funnies board on pinterest (where i pin all the hilarious things i find) and I have one of a guy and its kinda like those ryan gosling "hey girl" photos going around lol but it says, " I went to the store and bought you some cakes because the thought of you hungry makes me sad" :(...I thought this was hilarious because it reminds me of SO... I even put in the caption "SO all day lol"....so I find that not only did SO delete my beautiful people board he COMMENTED on this pin ON A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT BOARD under MY NAME "yeah, too bad the pictures a guy whos balls you wanna lick."

really?

I got mad for about a minute and then when he got home from work I calmly told him that I had found "part 2" of his escapades and NOT FUNNY. We both had a little laugh anyway since we had already had our conversation on bondaries and jealousy, and he was pretty sheepish about it. Goodness though how ridiculous!