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Rehearsal was a mini $hitshow

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Thu, 06/08/2023 - 11:42am

Well we had our first encounter with the OG ex wife #1 for eldest SD wedding this upcoming weekend. 
She was a half hour late. When SD called she almost didn't come stating her dress was ready and needed to be picked up and she had forgotten about the rehearsal. Also she wasn't going to dinner after (oh darn). 
 

So she shows up - has the most miserable look on her face walks around self segregating from us/groom's parents and groom. The few times we were in close proximity working out details she apparently continually was making snide remarks. My DH heard one and acted as if he didn't. But she continued the whole time probably close to an hour to SD and SS. When we left heading to dinner - SD text DH apologizing for how rude her mother was. When we got to dinner he told her no need for her to apologize. Then she told us a few other tidbits. Like seriously other than the fact it upset SD, DH and I thought it was hilarious and were unbothered at all 

SS18 even noticed her shenanigans and he is oblivious to 99.9% of the world. 

it's gonna be a long weekend ! She better hope she doesn't ruin this wedding and really better hope she doesn't ruin her relationship with her daughter. 
 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 06/08/2023 - 11:53am

Makes you wonder what the groom's family thinks!

I would see that behavior and just dread the fact that I am going to have a high conflict in-law to deal with! 

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Thu, 06/08/2023 - 12:04pm

I feel the 2nd hand embarrassment for SD with her new in laws. Unfortunately if you never have a consequences for your bad behavior (in this case her mother acting like an a$$) why would she ever change. SD is in her mid 30's this could be a pivotal moment in their relationship. But that's for her to manage. 

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Submitted by Cover1W on Thu, 06/08/2023 - 1:33pm

My own parents were pretty darn awful during my first marriage wedding day (they were fine at the rehersal). And it just reflected badly on THEM. Many people were pretty darned amazed and I did not apologize for them as they created it themselves. It makes for good stories.

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 06/08/2023 - 5:46pm

I have had the social event of the season wedding. The cost of that was more than $25K/yr of marriage. My XW and I were married for 2.5 years. She moved out at 25mos.

My DW and I eloped. Total cost including the weekend hotel, etc... and Lake Tahoe wedding chapel... ~$500.  Next month we will celebrate our 29th wedding anniversary.

The drama level and cost per year of marriage are incomparable between the two. In my case anyway.

My parents eloped. They just celebrated 61 years of marriage.

However, my brother and his wife will hit 30 this year and they had a nice wedding. Though a modest one.

With people of quality, a wedding can be an amazing celebratory event. With less than quality people, it can be a disaster.