Its been a hot minute since I've been on. 

5/28 I posted about my mom being on hospice and my sister's cancer dx timeline being shortened. Thank you all for your replies at the time. I'm sorry I did not get back to everyone, my sister passed on 6/11 at 46 years old.

Mom is still doing pretty well on hospice, so we feel lucky in that sense.

I think we've turned a page in dealing with step drama.

This is a momentous occasion I never saw coming. DH has been in the midst of being stripped of even more time due to sports this Summer after he already agreed to losing two weeks for the ever important school version of the sport.

A week later he gets hit with a request for an additional week for the travel version try outs that have no make up time.

DH and SS's (19) relationship is basically non existent at this point. (They are long distance but had always been close during the visitation years). 

Since Christmas, DH has spoken to him exactly once at which point he asked the kid if he had realized how long it had been since they had spoken. Every communication or attempt at communication comes from DH. The kid laughed it off and for probably the first time ever DH's tone was not as nice or understanding or empathetic or jokey or etc. He straight up told the kid it wasn't funny.

DH had SD 2nd half of Christmas which ended last week. SS is aged out and works FT pretty much so he doesn't come anymore.

Prior to SD coming DH had been on the phone with SS where he told DH he was wrapping his sister's gift along with his mother's husband's gift. DH replied cheekily something to the affect "oh I guess you'll be sending my gift with your sister when she comes down". 

SD arrives empty handed (I had taken her shopping when she was here for Turkey Day for her dad).