Well BM has taken SD to the counselor again - even after the last session in Feburary stated there was no need to bring her back as there was no evidence of abuse, nightmare, fears of dad and stepmom and no evidence of wrong doing.

So now - becuase DH would not give up his weekend visit for a birthday party, and his summer visits for dance camp (which does not happen until the week after his visit ends) she has gone to the counselor with the child on 28 of May.

I am not sure what was told to the counselor - however it must not have triggered anything on her part as the visitation has not been stopped yet.

However - that week that we picked her up is when SD told us her mother and grandmother told her that her mom and dad have to fight over her in court. They also told her that DH beat her mom up and that is why he has to live in Virginia.

Which is all bogus - but it really affected SD. So instead of just enjoying SD on the last visit we had to do damage control. We made sure we explained to her that it is okay to love both her mom and dad - becuase they both love her. We told her that her parents do not fight about anything - they talk. AND since they told her about court and judges - we explained the court and judges help mommy's and daddy's make decision when they don't know what to do. Which is about the best we could explain to a little 6 year old. I also let her know that i am her friend and will always be her friend and if she needs to talk to someone I am here. I am not trying to be her mom - just her friend and she told me thanks for being a friend.

I am almost sick to the stomack to think that they emotionally abused this little girl and made her dad seem like the bad guy and then took her to the counselor. How could a mom do that to her own little girl.

I concentrate on building my daughter's self esteem and confidence. I make sure she knows i love her and my step-daughter. I want to be able to have them know they can lean on me for anything and that i will love them no matter what.

BUT this Bitch - (excuse me for the vulgarity) has the nerve to tear her own daughter down emotionally for her own supposed personal gain. It makes me sick to the stomack. I so want to slap the fire out of her just for her daughter. What mother tears down the belief system of their child, trys to make their dad look evil, lies to her and tells her no one loves her in Virginia. I do not understand - but i am getting really sick and tired of her treating my SD like a pawn to win a case.

We go to court on 14 July... and I am praying that a positive change is made for the sake of this little girl - before her mother permanently damages her self-esteem for life.

I am just waiting to see what those counselor notes say - - - - - Hopefully, SD did like she has done at the other sessions - and tells them exactly what they told her to say..... Only she starts each sentence with, "My mommi said ----------- daddi was mean or My mommi said ------ gr8tma hit me." It will even further damage her case in court.