I've been reading these blogs for some time now however have not worked up to asking for advice until now.... Here is my background: I am bio mom to two kids, one boy and one girl ages 9 and 5. I am stepmom to two kids, one boy and one girl ages 2 and 6. Both my husband and I share residential time of our children with their other parents in joint parenting plans. My husband and I have been together for 14 months and married for 3 months. I have been divorced for 2 years, my husband was technically still married when we met; however he had been seperated for 6 months (seperated for the 3rd time I might add due to the fact that his ex-wife was incapable of being faithful). I was there for the last of the divorce proceedings, I have watched this woman manipulate my husband, lie to the courts, use her own kids in an attempt to get her way, harass our family, lie about me, ETC. I really and truly do not like this woman, I don't have a shred of respect for her as a mother, or a person. The woman uses people and then tosses them aside as if they were trash. This woman had originally sought my husband out because of what he could do for her. At the time my now husband was 21-years-old... owned a home.... owned a business... owned acerage in another state.... owned a new truck... (to sum it up he had his act together). She didn't. She had never lived anywhere other than with her parents, she dropped out of highschool, was sent to jobcore (by her parents), and basically ran wild, (no one in her family has graduated from highschool, the entire family consists of druggies, alcoholics, and losers. Anyway, after returning from jobcore she went after my (now) husband grossly pretending to be something that she wasen't.... and it worked.... they soon married and she became pregnant on their honeymoon. THEN her true colors came out. My husband stayed with this woman (off and on) for nearly 7 years and two kids later trying to work things out for the sake of the kids. She cheated time and time again and left time and time again when she thought she saw greener grass on the other side. She USED him... until the last time she cheated and he finally had enough. I met my husband while she was in the process AGAIN of attempting to win him back.... I still can't help but wonder if he would have taken her back if I had not come into the picture.
Anyway, they have now been divorced for 13 months and as it seems to be with just about everyone else, this woman attempts to interfere with our lives; fortunately we simply don't allow her to interfere with us.
Well, now she has a new boyfriend... They got together 2 months ago... she just turned 27 years old... he is 40... she lives at home with her parents.... he owns 3 homes, several business, and apparently is loaded.... he was married for 18 years and has 3 kids. From what I hear, the guy is really nice and my stepkids seem to like him alot. I know that she is using him as her sugar daddy, and it is bothering me. I find myself feeling jealous, though I'm not quite sure why yet. It seems that this woman just glides through life living off of others and never working for anything.
Okay, down to the advice part... My husband and I are meeting the new boyfriend this Thursday at a school function of my stepdaughters. The school function is viewing a recent project that the students worked on.... bio mom refused to work on the project with my stepdaughter (school is a non concern of hers) therefore my stepdaughter and I worked on and completed the entire project together. I know that she is going to show up with her new boyfriend of 2 months acting as if she had a huge part of the project, etc. According to mutual friends, she is suddenly saying "WE" all the time in referece to her new boyfriend... stating "we are going to buy a house by my parents" "we are selling his house in another town" etc. The mutual friends say that she is pushing things really fast and seems to be attempting to 'prove' something to my husband.
I don't know.... its seems silly now that my feelings are in writing.... but all of this is irritating me! She is using another seemingly really nice guy and trying to flaunt him around in an attempt to give rise to my husband... WHY?
I also don't know how I am supposed to act at the school function.... She will be arriving with the kids (it is her scheduled time)... She is going to show up to the event showcasing the project that I worked on and completed stepdaughter.... How do I act? Please help!!

NOTE: I apologize if this seems totally random and unorganized.... its just the way I am feeling right now.